clevymd
In the past two weeks, I have lost Zoe, which was anticipated, and Jasmine, which was completely unexpected.  Both have been huge blows, and the grief process is both emotionally and physically exhausting.  I have been doing things to cope, and offer these suggests for others, and would be interested to hear what other things people do.

First, joining this group and making the memorials for my girls has been tremendously helpful.  Realizing we are not alone, sharing our memories and feelings, and hearing from others is truly a wonderful thing and I am thankful to Ginny for creating this place.

I put up some pictures of Zoe and Jasmine, have candles burning all day next to them, and put their collars and special toys by the pictures.  

In the front garden, I placed a dog planter and leafy plant, a plaque that reads, "if love could have saved you, you would have lived forever," and a dog statue.  I have a GSD garden flag and solar lights around the area.

In the back yard, I have two wind chimes that have Zoe's and Jasmine's name on the wooden clappers, hanging in the trees where they would lie down after playing to rest in the shade.  I sit in the chair under the tree and listen to the chimes.  

I bought a GSD pendant with Jasmine's name on it, have one coming with Zoe's name on it, paw print earrings, and a paw print bracelet, and wear them to think about the girls throughout the day.  

I still have my two other dogs, Layla, who is a 13 1/2 year old lab mix, and Roxie, my shadow, a 9 year old GSD.  Layla has arthritis, and I have started laser therapy for her to help her get around better and have less pain.  I have been spending as much time as possible with them, as although they don't seem to be upset, I know they must have some sense that things have changed.  The house is very different without Zoe and Jasmine, much quieter and calmer as Zoe had a very big personality and unfortunately was a huge bully to the other dogs. We also don't go outside as much, as Jasmine was the one that wanted to go out all the time.  

What suggestions do you have or things you do to help with the grieving process, or make it easier to cope with our losses?
Carole, Mom to Zoe, who crossed the bridge on 7/5/18, Jasmine, who crossed on 7/14/18, and Layla, on 12/1/18, all will forever be in my heart, and ongoing mom to Roxie.

https://www.rainbowsbridge.com/residents/ZOE085/Resident.htm
https://www.RainbowsBridge.com/residents/JASMI151/Resident.htm
https://www.rainbowsbridge.com/residents/LAYLA022/Resident.htm
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CK1991
I'm so sorry for your losses. You have come up with some beautiful ways to remember Zoe and Jasmine. I imagine they are both so proud!
Thank you for sharing these lovely ideas. I know that those who are grieving; especially the newly bereaved, will find them very helpful.
Hugs to you!
CK
I will visit Zoe and Jasmine's rainbow bridge memorial residences and leave a condolence.
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MAlcindor
You have done some beautiful things to honor your babies, they must be very proud of their mommy. I've had so many thoughts of how I want to memorialize my Max and Bailey.  I also got a candle for each of them along with a picture. I want to get a shadow box for each in which I would like to display their collars, paw prints, a poem and their picture. The urn I ordered for Max came in yesterday and now I am going to order the same one for Bailey. I keep seeing an advertisement in Facebook where they can make a charm from a picture of your pet, I think I will get that also. 

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mistlechu
Those are beautiful ways to honor them! Your babies were so lucky to have someone as loving as you!!!

I've been using this notebook I got a few weeks prior. I'm going to make it into a journal for her. I write about things she did that made me happy and I plan to print out some photos and put photos in there as well. I consider this a way of coping so I can focus on the positive times of her life and what made me smile and laugh and what made her happy also.

I'm even thinking of making a scrapbook of her with all her facebook photos ( hundreds of them ) as a keepsake.

I haven't chosen a urn yet. I'm still looking. Though I will be getting her ashes this Wednesday.  I also am getting a clay pawprint of hers from the place. I plan to sort of make a little memorial area for her. Where her urn can sit and I plan to take her favorite blanket, that she got this last Christmas, and frame it and place it beside her ashes.

But I find writing about all the wonderful memories is the best for me. I keep it on the nightstand by my bed and I plan to read it every night if I feel sad before bed. It's my own special memory notebook just for her and it's full of nothing but good things. Small memories, funny ones, little habits, random thoughts of things she did. It gives me a chance to remember her life and cherish it and remember how much joy she brought me.
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Rookiesmama
I'm so sorry for your losses and thank you for sharing your wonderful ideas.

I know I want to have my boy's picture engraved with his dates... this I will put with his ashes. I'm also debating about having a pawprint keychain made with some of his ashes, but I don't know how I feel about his ashes being separated. I know that I would feel happy having the keychain and always having a (somewhat) physical part of him with me, but I don't know if that's fair to him. Everything feels like such a major choice; I just want to be able to think clearly.
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clevymd
One thing I did yesterday was go through all the photos and videos I have put of Jasmine on my Instagram account, into a special folder so I can look at her and remember those good days and special times.  She was such a beautiful and happy girl.  We played frisbee for hours and she was such an athlete, before she went blind.  I know it was much harder for her after that, but she was still happy, although not in the same way.  The progressive deafness also took a toll.  That was why we had decided that if she did get very sick and her quality of life would further decline, we would not pursue aggressive treatment.   I am able to smile and laugh when I look back at those pictures and videos, and although the pain is still sharp, I know my life is better for having Jasmine in it, even just for those six years.
Carole, Mom to Zoe, who crossed the bridge on 7/5/18, Jasmine, who crossed on 7/14/18, and Layla, on 12/1/18, all will forever be in my heart, and ongoing mom to Roxie.

https://www.rainbowsbridge.com/residents/ZOE085/Resident.htm
https://www.RainbowsBridge.com/residents/JASMI151/Resident.htm
https://www.rainbowsbridge.com/residents/LAYLA022/Resident.htm
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MAlcindor
Having a necklace with my boys' ashes is something that has crossed my mind, but somehow I don't feel it's right to separate his ashes. I thought I was the only one who felt that way, just doesn't feel right. They should be left whole, to rest in peace.
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Rookiesmama
Malcindor, that is totally what i'm struggling with. He loved the car and loved being with me, I just don't know if I can separate them. Maybe in time? I suppose it's not a decision I need to make right now.
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MAlcindor
Absolutely, take your time making any type of decisions right now. What you feel is right today may change tomorrow. Our emotions are still very raw.
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Rookiesmama
My Rookie came home earlier tonight and he's currently on my dresser on his blanket with a toy nearby. My rational mind knows he doesn't need these things, but he loved them, and it makes me feel like i'm still somewhat caring for him.... so, for now, they'll stay.
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clevymd
I picked up Jasmine's ashes today and found that the people our vet uses for this service had made a print of her paw and included it with the box, and a nice card.  Having her paw print brought me back to tears, but being able to touch her paw print is really comforting. With Zoe, we had a vet come to our home, not our office vet, and his service did not make a print of Zoe's paw, and I now know I really would have liked that for her, too. 
Carole, Mom to Zoe, who crossed the bridge on 7/5/18, Jasmine, who crossed on 7/14/18, and Layla, on 12/1/18, all will forever be in my heart, and ongoing mom to Roxie.

https://www.rainbowsbridge.com/residents/ZOE085/Resident.htm
https://www.RainbowsBridge.com/residents/JASMI151/Resident.htm
https://www.rainbowsbridge.com/residents/LAYLA022/Resident.htm
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MAlcindor
I'm sorry you don't have Zoe's paw print. Max and Bailey passed away in different hospitals. With Max I requested a paw print to be included with his ashes. We received two paw prints (inked). When Bailey passed I requested to have his paw prints also, but his was a paw print cast. I wish they both would have been casts, but at least I have something. I regret not getting a clipping of their beautiful hair. 
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