Dearest Karen, Thank you so much for your rapid response on this sad day. This forum has been my rock when the chips are down, and you have always been such a big part of that, from Day 1. I recently ordered a 50th anniversary edition of one of my favorite books, Gift From the Sea, by Ann Morrow Lindbergh. My mom gave me her copy when I was in high school, and I treasured it. For years, I gave copies to friends for their birthdays, since my initials were S.E.A. Somewhere along the line, I lost my copy in a box of books that never arrived at their destination during one of my moves. I am so happy to have a new copy to treasure. I went to Amazon write a review of my ordering experience, and as usual, there was a list of suggested items for people who like the book. One of those books is written by Reeve Lindbergh, the youngest daughter of Ann Morrow Lindburgh. It is called No More Words: A Journal of My Mother, Ann Morrow Lindbergh. I read a few pages of it on line, and immediately added it to my Amazon wish list to order it in the future. In the excerpt I read, Reeve Lindbergh writes about conversations she had with her mother after she (Reeve) lost her young child suddenly and unexpectedly. Of course, we all know that Ann tragically lost her own young child years earlier, Charles Lindbergh, Jr., the famous Lindbergh Baby. One passage in Reeves' book touched the very core of my being, and it applies to all of us who feel the shock of losing someone we love. Ann said to her daughter, "This horror will fade, I can promise you that. The horror fades. The sadness, though, is different. The sadness remains..." Reeve goes on to describe how the sadness became like a member of the family, or like the family dog, hiding in corners for long naps. She also writes about welcoming it at certain times to sit with her for long conversations. Such beauty in her words! It's important for all of us to remember that the sadness is not always a curse. Sometimes it is a welcome friend, reminding us of the love we shared with our angels. It can help us feel closer to them our whole lives long as long as we don't give it too much power. Eventually, after a visit with it, we are ready let it return to wherever it dwells from day to day and welcome the love to sit with us a while. It's all in the yin and yang of life. Thank you again for your comforting words.
My heart is battered and bruised, but I will not let it break. It holds such precious cargo, I must protect it now. (Susie Squillions)
"Memories of loved ones are like songs in our soul." Margaret Wakeley
BUDDY GUY AYRES~LYNCH'S RESIDENCY:
KING BING THE GOD CAT'S RESIDENCY:
In one of the stars, I shall be living.
In one of them, I shall be laughing.
And so it will be as if all the stars were laughing when you look at the sky at night.
~ The Little Prince, Antoine de Saint-Exupery