1. there’s nothing that could have been done differently
A Soul’s path is planned before they are born onto this Earth. This plan includes all possible exits from this world. And when the Soul leaves this Earth, know that this exit was part of their Soul’s plan and a specific choice made by their soul.

There’s nothing you, or anyone, could have done differently to save them. The time at which your Pet’s Spirit leaves this world is no one's doing, it’s no one's fault.

When it’s the Soul’s time to exit their physical body, everything that can be done, has already been done. Everything that needed to happen, did. Your pet wants you to know that there’s absolutely nothing you could have done differently, you did everything exactly right.

2. they chose you as their parent(s)
Just as the Soul chooses exit paths and plans for their life, your pet also selected you as their parent.

Your pet chose you, as the one who would make them feel the most loved and bring them the most comfort and joy while they were here. And you did.

Your pet wants you know that you were and are the perfect parent.

3. they understand your sadness, but would rather see you happy
As a Spirit now, your pet knows that sadness is part of the grieving process, but they wished it wasn’t.

Remember how, when they were alive, they would snuggle up next to you, sitting by your side (or on top of you), whenever you were feeling sad or feeling bad? They wanted to make you feel better *just like you thought* and they wished they could do something to make you happy, then. And they still do, even now, They don’t want their exit to have brought pain, in fact, no one does. But they understand that this is part of the process.

They want you to remember the happy, love filled, and joyous times you spent together, and look back upon them with gratitude and thanks. They believe the time you spent together was a cherished gift and that this gift is a call for celebration - and smiles.

4. they know you loved them and hope you know they loved you back
Your pet doesn’t want you to wonder if they knew how much you loved them, they do.

It’s said that grief is the final gift of love given from one to another, and the depth of that grief is a measure of the strength of the love between the bond.

They know how deeply you loved them, and they want you to know that they loved you back in equal measure (if not more!).

5. they’re still right by your side
You aren’t alone. They aren’t gone forever - they’re still right by your side. And they always will be, if you let them. The Spirit World exists right alongside our physical world, and while your pet may no longer be occupying their physical body, they’re still with you in Spirit.

And remember, that’s who you loved in the first place. You loved their mannerisms, their attitude, and their personality - all elements of their Spirit. You didn’t love them for their fur, or their one standing straight up ear, or their snaggle teeth (ok, maybe you did a little). Mostly, you loved them for who they were as a Spirit, and that Spirit, still exists right beside you.

After they pass on, your pet wants you to know that they still cuddle up next to you, still join you on the couch, and still want to be with you, if you want that too.

6. they still want to do things with you
They’re still here, in Spirit form, and they still enjoy your company and want to do the things you always did together.

If they used to ride shotgun on car trips, or they used to love accompanying you on hikes, bike rides, or jogs, or they used to love sitting on your lap while you worked late at night - you pets wants you to know, they still enjoy doing those things, and still want to join you.

All you have to do to invite them along, is pat the couch beside you and encourage them to jump up, or give them the okay to hop out of the car and accompany you on the hike.

7. they don’t want you to regret the way that they died
Nearly all pet owners have some sadness or regret about their pet’s final moments.

If you had to carry your pet into the vet to be put to sleep, your dog does not want you to regret this choice. It was their choice, too, to be in your arms as they took their final breaths, and to be surrounded by your love as their Spirit left their body.

Your pet wants you to have no regret and to have no sadness, they want you to know that these were their choices, and you honored them perfectly. You did exactly what they wanted.

8. they know you often loved them more than you loved yourself
Even if you didn’t have proper food to eat, they know you somehow managed to buy them food and treats. Your pet knows that you often showered them in more love than you ever showed yourself. They know this, and they have deep gratitude for your love. This is exactly why you were the perfect choice as their parent, and they want to thank you, for loving them even when at times it seemed so hard to love anything at all.

9. they loved you more than they loved themselves
Your pet was an individual, too. They had things they felt badly about and things that they knew could be improved upon, and reasons, that they felt they were unworthy of love, just like we all do.

But you, you were always supportive, always loving, and always doting, even at times, when you thought you weren’t. Your pet loved you, and loves you, more than they ever loved themselves.

And if you’ll allow it, they’d like to still be a part of your life.

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Thank you for this - its beautiful.  I still feel my dogs spirit, especially when we are on one of his favourite walks, and I can sometimes sense him in the car.  But almost always in our bedroom. His basket was always on my side of the bed - we`ve since put it under the bed, but a couple of times I`ve heard the wicker creaking the way it did when he was trying to get himself comfortable, and occasionally I can still smell his little special `doggy` smell - only for a few seconds, but enough for me to be convinced he`s still coming to visit us.  Even my husband, who is such a sceptic, has heard him trotting around to his side of the bed, just like he always did whenever he wanted to go downstairs and out into the garden.  So, yes - I still believe their spirit/ soul can come back to us, we`ve just got to be open to them. 

J Taylor
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Thank you for posting MaryEllen1952. The pain is wicked~ for all of us who shared the heart & soul & unconditional love. Thinking of our best buddies-- as still being with us-- is comforting. Thank you! Kasey 
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I agree with every word. Thank you for reminding me of all that I believe but have pushed to one side during moments of complete emotional turmoil.  I have not yet felt my Duke return yet, but perhaps as it was only on the 1st Feb that we lost our beautiful boy, he is still in an adjusting state.  I have felt many of my previous lost ones return with a tap of a patio door or a patter of feet but perhaps because Duke was my special boy I am wishing too much to have one last hug or moment to cherish him.  I hope and pray that he visits me soon just to let me know hes ok.
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Thanks for this post, I'm having a mixed day,I collected my Olle's ashes and I was also given a new kitten today. I feel a bit guilty for getting a kitten so soon but after reading this I feel a bit better and think maybe Ollie sent this little one to me.
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I truly believe your Olle will be very happy to know that you are continuing the love you gave to Ollie to another deserving pet.
I have had to have many pets put to sleep over the past 10 years and everytime I had to experience that horrible but necessary part of the pet's life I have ALWAYS brought a new pet into my life immediately.  I truly think it helps shorten the grief period.

Sasha wrote:
Thanks for this post, I'm having a mixed day,I collected my Olle's ashes and I was also given a new kitten today. I feel a bit guilty for getting a kitten so soon but after reading this I feel a bit better and think maybe Ollie sent this little one to me.
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That is truly beautiful. It made me cry. Ever bit of that story is true. Thank you
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This is the most wonderful post, and I would like to thank you for that Mary Ellen.

And what is written there I can say first-hand, has much truth in it, as those things are the same things my Misty has tried to convey to me this past 4 years.
Hold the love like a little light. It is all you have, or will ever have, to find your way home.

Misty's Blog..a Dogfight with Cancer

Misty's life after death:
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thanks, I really needed that..........made me weep and it also made me smile
dan kornstadt
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Beautiful, thank you so much. X
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Ten million times correct !
Thank you for putting this accurate information out there
where it can help so many humans !!!
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