I am so very sorry for the loss of your sweet precious Stanley.
Grief is awful and there is nothing else like this pain.
I am divorced - when I was married I buried my son- at that time I became a Certified Grief Counselor- I used the same graveside service for my Bear as I did for my son.
Please know that when we lose someone we love we don't stop loving them -
LOVE NEVER DIES.
The soul bound connection that is between our babies and ourselves is forever.
Nothing - not death- tears -grief - or sadness will ever break the ties between us for those ties are made
of LOVE so strong that NOTHING will ever sever those connections.
LOVE NEVER DIES.
When we grieve for those we love it is because we do not quite know how to live without them. We breathe because we have no choice but the living part takes a huge amount of learning and time.
There are two books good for children - THE FOREVER DOG - and PAWPRINTS IN THE SKY- your son is the correct age for these books.
We ALL "what if" ourselves. He could have had a clot or aneurism that he was born with - no way to know. The most important thing is that Stanley had LOVE and He LOVES YOU AS YOU LOVE HIM- Forever and Always!
Grief is not something we get over but something that we learn -slowly- over time- to incorporate into our lives until it becomes a part of us like our bones and our breath.
Please know that we all understand here and we are all here for you.
We are all in this together and all walking the same roller coaster path of grief together -
some a bit ahead of you, some by your side, and some will come behind for you to help along.
You Are In My Thoughts.