Yesterday, I wrote a message on this forum about the loss of my female husky Fanta. Grief and sadness have accompanied me for more than 3 years now. These feelings have not been present continuously, but I have often felt them... But writing to you made me feel good and Jim Miller (BorderCollieLover)’s response was very soothing.
But since Fanta died, I’ve also been angry. And I am still angry - at my aunt’s reaction since Fanta died. Not only did she not call or write to my wife and I when it happened, but since then, she’s continuously said falsehoods about my dogs (Tyrion, the male husky I already had before Fanta died and Leia, the female husky we adopted after), such as: “huskies are dangerous for children, could you keep your dogs away from my grandchildren?” or “dogs can’t feel love. They’re only nice to you because they depend on you”. She’s constantly complaining that the dogs are on her way or that she would like them away from her. And when I confronted her about that 2 years ago, she barely said she was sorry and even after I told her I considered my dogs as members of my family, she said she didn’t like them. All of that seems so mean and inconsiderate, especially since she knows how affected we are by Fanta's death and how sensitive we are when someone criticizes our dogs.
For the past 2 years, I’ve avoided her and only saw her once, for Christmas. Another get-together is organized this Christmas: lunch at a restaurant with her, my cousins, nieces and nephews and my family. I’m still very angry at her and would gladly avoid her. But at the same time, I don’t want to miss the opportunity to spend time with the rest of my family - I rarely see 2 of my cousins and their families since they live abroad.
I feel very conflicted... Any advice?