I am so very sorry that you lost both your sweet Robert and Jack.
I am so very sorry for the loss of your sweet precious boys.
The beginning raw searing pain of new grief is just awful.
They take a piece of us when they go,
But they leave a piece of them with us also.
Grief is awful and there is nothing else like this pain.
I am divorced - when I was married I buried my son- at that time I became a Certified Grief Counselor- I used the same graveside service for my Bear as I did for my son.
Please know that when we lose someone we love we don't stop loving them -
LOVE NEVER DIES.
The soul bound connection that is between our babies and ourselves is forever.
Nothing - not death- tears -grief - or sadness will ever break the ties between us for those ties are made of LOVE so strong that NOTHING will ever sever those connections.
LOVE NEVER DIES.
When we grieve for those we love it is because we do not quite know how to live without them. We breathe because we have no choice but the living part takes a huge amount of learning and time.
Grief is not something we get over but something that we learn -slowly- over time- to incorporate into our lives until it becomes a part of us like our bones and our breath.
Please know that we all understand here and we are all here for you.
Please come back and tell us more about your life with your beautiful babies so we can get to know them better through you. You can post pictures also.
We are all in this together and all walking the same roller coaster path of grief together -
some a bit ahead of you, some by your side, and some will come behind for you to help along.
If you read the beginning of any one of our threads you will see yourself. I, literally, walked in circles wringing my hands. My chest constantly hurt as I was unknowingly holding my breath.
You Are In My Thoughts.