Morganncr18

I’m at a loss.

We have a 13 year old pug,Gunner, who has been wheelchair bound for the last 9 months. His back and hind legs gave out completely almost a year ago. 

He’s incontinent and has been for around 3 years, the last year losing all control. So, we have him in washable diapers with maxi pad inserts that we change throughout the day. 
Gunner also has a hard time seeing and hearing. 

Even with all these complications, we find ourselves ready to cancel the vet appointment Sunday and continue this crazy care for him. We are lucky enough to have found a vet that will come to our home and put him to sleep so he’s in the comfort of his own home. 

We have two small children and find ourselves missing out on activities with them because we have to make sure we are home to care for Gunner ever couple of hours. Finding someone to take on the task of caring for him if we have to be gone for the day has become nearly impossible. 

While Gunner has all these issues .. he still gets excited and eats just fine. I know in my heart it’s his time to go.. I can’t imagine seeing him any worse than what he is now. 

Because he is in the wheelchair pretty much all day, he gets sores from the straps, when he’s out of the wheelchair he will poop and drag himself through it at least once a day. 

We love him but we know he has to be tired and quite honestly we are tired too. I have to remind myself that he isn’t able to live a normal dog life anymore. He doesn’t get to enjoy walks, lake visits or even laying on the couch. 

In the back of my mind I know we’ve done everything we can for him. 


Has anyone been in a situation similar to this?  49245ACB-3C7C-42E0-A5AC-2F2943989B0B.jpeg 

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Jan_H
I am very sorry for what you, your family and adorable Gunner are going through. I know how hard it is to make that horrible decision and then watch the clock until that final moment. I know what it is like to consider canceling the appointment, knowing that it would just postpone the inevitable.

You have done absolutely the best possible caring for Gunner. He is clearly very much loved. I'm sure you are giving him much love, treats and anything he wants to make this as good a weekend as possible for him.

That is such an adorable picture of Gunner. Thank you for sharing.

You are in my thoughts,
Jan
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JulieF
Gunner is lucky to have you as parents.  You know it is time.  He does not have quality of life.  I put my 19-year-old cat down yesterday because his kidney disease finally caught up to him .  He was in pain and I know I did the right thing, but I still feel guilty.  Give him all the love you can until that day.   Bless you.
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Cassies_mom1
That is the sweetest picture ever of Gunner.  Its obvious you love your dog very much and you have done everything you can to make Gunner feel comfortable.  It's going to be a year on April 28th since I put my sweet cat Cassie down and I still get sad when I think of it. She came down with cancer of the kidneys and when I took her in the Vet said they could give her pain meds but she didn't have long. In one way I was so grateful I had time to say my goodbyes and on the other hand it was so hard.  Every time she cuddled with me I would fight back the tears because I knew our time together was very short.  But I knew that one morning when I woke up and she was moaning it was time to put her out of her pain.  I knew if I waited it was because I wanted her to be with me longer and I had to think of her.  I took a long time to get through a day without crying and feeling depressed.  But now I may cry once in awhile but I also have fond and funny memories of her that make me laugh. She will always be the special love of my life.  I wish you the best.  Losing our furbabies is very difficult.
    
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Pecan_mom
I’m praying for you.  You have given him the best life possible.  My dog Pecan passed away unexpectedly 19 days ago and I don’t know the exact reason.  My heart is broken but deep down I know if even if we saved her she wouldn’t have the same quality of life anymore.  She was fine all day, got sick at nigh and passed away at 4am.  The pain is unbearable and I cry and question myself everyday but I’m trying to think about all the good times we had together and the unconditional love between us.  This will be painful for you so give yourself time to grieve and heal.  Unfortunately they don’t live long enough.  
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Morganncr18

Jan_H wrote:
I am very sorry for what you, your family and adorable Gunner are going through. I know how hard it is to make that horrible decision and then watch the clock until that final moment. I know what it is like to consider canceling the appointment, knowing that it would just postpone the inevitable.

You have done absolutely the best possible caring for Gunner. He is clearly very much loved. I'm sure you are giving him much love, treats and anything he wants to make this as good a weekend as possible for him.

That is such an adorable picture of Gunner. Thank you for sharing.

You are in my thoughts,
Jan


thank you,Jan. 


we were able to spend the last few days of Gunners life spoiling him and giving him all the love. We will miss him forever ♥️♥️

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JulieF wrote:
Gunner is lucky to have you as parents.  You know it is time.  He does not have quality of life.  I put my 19-year-old cat down yesterday because his kidney disease finally caught up to him .  He was in pain and I know I did the right thing, but I still feel guilty.  Give him all the love you can until that day.   Bless you.


Hi Julie, I’m sorry for the loss of your cat. 19 years.. wow.. how lucky you are to have that much time with him. My childhood cat,Blossom,will be 19 this year.. she is living out her life sunbathing and begging for treats at all hours of the night. 
I think the hardest part about losing Gunner this past Sunday is getting used to life with him not around. I never thought I would miss his snoring so much ♥️

 

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Morganncr18
That is the sweetest picture ever of Gunner.  Its obvious you love your dog very much and you have done everything you can to make Gunner feel comfortable.  It's going to be a year on April 28th since I put my sweet cat Cassie down and I still get sad when I think of it. She came down with cancer of the kidneys and when I took her in the Vet said they could give her pain meds but she didn't have long. In one way I was so grateful I had time to say my goodbyes and on the other hand it was so hard.  Every time she cuddled with me I would fight back the tears because I knew our time together was very short.  But I knew that one morning when I woke up and she was moaning it was time to put her out of her pain.  I knew if I waited it was because I wanted her to be with me longer and I had to think of her.  I took a long time to get through a day without crying and feeling depressed.  But now I may cry once in awhile but I also have fond and funny memories of her that make me laugh. She will always be the special love of my life.  I wish you the best.  Losing our furbabies is very difficult.
    


Thank you for your kind words. I have two little ones that keep me busy through the day.. but boy when they go to bed and the house is quiet my emotions come in full force. It’s the little things you don’t realize how much you will miss. I just wish his final months could have been more enjoyable for him. The guilt starts to kick in when I think about the last few months of Gunners life.. I wish I would have had snuggled a lot more and stressed a lot less. ☹️ That will be my biggest regret.  Our hearts are never ready to say goodbye ♥️
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Morganncr18

Pecan_mom wrote:
I’m praying for you.  You have given him the best life possible.  My dog Pecan passed away unexpectedly 19 days ago and I don’t know the exact reason.  My heart is broken but deep down I know if even if we saved her she wouldn’t have the same quality of life anymore.  She was fine all day, got sick at nigh and passed away at 4am.  The pain is unbearable and I cry and question myself everyday but I’m trying to think about all the good times we had together and the unconditional love between us.  This will be painful for you so give yourself time to grieve and heal.  Unfortunately they don’t live long enough.  


im so sorry for your loss. ♥️ We lost a dog suddenly in 2018 and I was absolutely heartbroken. It’s never easy no matter the circumstance and I hope you find comfort in the love you shared with Pecan.  2DB833C8-517E-4117-BFE2-5AB16A2B2160.jpeg 

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Pecan_mom
@Morganncr18
Thank you very much for your sweet comment and the beautiful and heart warming poem.  I feel her all the time.   I wish i knew what caused it.  I love her so much!! take care 🙂
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MrSmithster
My heart goes out to you and family. I had to send my Miss Willow to the Rainbow Bridge almost 1 year ago. She had canine kidney disease and was in diapers her last year. It was and still is the hardest decision I ever made. But, it was the right decision for her, not necessarily for me. I knew it was past her time, although that didn't make it any easier. I still miss her dearly, as she was the best darn friend I ever had. But there is go, thinking about me instead of her. I know she is in a better place. I wish you all the best. Prayers to you and your family
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