Had to put my little man to sleep Saturday, filled with mixed emotions sadness, happy he's not suffering, guilt that I had to decide that, grateful for 13 years of the best cat ever. Not even sure why I'm sharing this, other than if I don't get it out its gonna explode in my chest. Thank you for listening.
Quote 0 0



I am so very sorry for the loss of your  sweet precious baby.

Grief is awful and there is nothing else like this pain.

I am divorced - when I was married I buried my son- at that time I became a Certified Grief Counselor- I used the same graveside service for my Bear as I did for my son.

Please know that when we lose someone we love we don't stop loving them -


The soul bound connection that is between our babies and ourselves is forever.

Nothing - not death- tears -grief - or sadness will ever break the ties between us for those ties are made of LOVE so strong that NOTHING will ever sever those connections.


When we grieve for those we love it is because we do not quite know how to live without them. We breathe because we have no choice but the living part takes a huge amount of learning and time.

Grief is not something we get over but something that we learn -slowly- over time- to incorporate into our lives until it becomes a part of us like our bones and our breath.

Please know that we all understand here and we are all here for you.

We are all in this together and all walking the same roller coaster path of grief together -

some a bit ahead of you, some by your side, and some will come behind for you to help along.

You Are In My Thoughts.                                      




Quote 0 0
Thanx, sometimes it feels like I just got a shotgun point blank in the chest. I know I'll be ok, but right now its just worn me out.
Quote 0 0
When we lose our babies it does feel as if a hole has been punched inside of us.
And each one of us has a hole in a very specific shape - the shape of our baby.
It is difficult to breathe when a piece of us is missing.
We are all in this together.
Come back and tell us about your life with your baby so we an get to
know them through you.
When you are ready you can post pictures.
You are in my thoughts.


Quote 0 0
My friend, what a beautiful kitty.  I'm so sorry for your loss.  We had to put our kitty to sleep just days ago as well.  The pain is surreal.  You are not alone, though, and I know that I can understand the need to vent the feelings you feel.  Be kind to yourself! I wish you a peaceful heart.
Quote 0 0
D, I'm so sorry for your loss. I had to put my cat to sleep July 9. I miss him so much. I'm glad he is not suffering, but it doesn't stop me from wishing he could still be here healthy. I still check his favorite spots in the house. I'm not sure what I'm expecting to find. Maybe I want to convince myself I'm imagining things. I hope you find comfort and peace.

Mittens' mommy
Quote 0 0
Oh,  am so sorry, D, for the loss of your lovely kitty.  I know how you feel:  I had to put my dog down on July 9 and have been so grief-striken I feel like going to some other world where nothing dies.  You are not alone;  losing these fur-friends is really,  really rough;  far worse than many people imagine. Hold your kitty close in your heart.
Quote 0 0

Thank you all for the wonderful responses, its been as much of a help as it could possibly be. The massive loss has subsided, now it just feels like ghosting, I keep waiting to hear him, or see him asleep on the bed and nothing.

It's so ridiculously stark its pathetic, having just moved I have plenty to keep me distracted. I know after what the vet said he was sick and just hanging on till I he knew I was in a better place and I love him for that. I'm glad I found this forum because its allowed me to express what I don't think I could anywhere else.

I had a gift of 13 years and that's what I have to remember, most people don't get that much.

Quote 0 0