Dear Kathi, I'm so sorry to hear about your sudden loss. It's so hard to come to terms with any loss, but when it's unexpected, it really does throw you for a loop. When I first came here in 2004 after losing our little cat, Buddy Guy, somewhat suddenly, I found tremendous comfort here. I was encouraged to tell his story, and that helped me bring back the memories of happier times. Sure, I related those stories through plenty of tears, but it really was helpful and cathartic to go through the process. I remember struggling with the roller coaster of emotion well into the second and even third months. That's normal. It takes time for us to adjust to the loss of someone we've loved so well. Each of us heals at her (or his) own pace, and there is no normal, one size fits all rule about this process. We do the best we can, one day at a time. Some days, we make great strides, and then ~ wham! ~ all of a sudden, it's one step forward, two steps back. My heart goes out to you now. Lean on this forum as you travel this journey on your path to healing. It's the best place I know of to find the support and understanding you need now. xoxoxo
My heart is battered and bruised, but I will not let it break. It holds such precious cargo, I must protect it now. (Susie Squillions)
"Memories of loved ones are like songs in our soul." Margaret Wakeley
BUDDY GUY AYRES~LYNCH'S RESIDENCY:
KING BING THE GOD CAT'S RESIDENCY:
In one of the stars, I shall be living.
In one of them, I shall be laughing.
And so it will be as if all the stars were laughing when you look at the sky at night.
~ The Little Prince, Antoine de Saint-Exupery