Flgolfer
I have had dogs my entire life and with that I of course have learned to deal with the loss, or at least I thought I had.

3 weeks ago my wife went into labor so we packed up the car, took our 3 1/2 year Dauschund/Jack Russell Mix, Tebow, to my parents house dropped him off and went and had our first child.

The next day I had a voicemail when I woke up saying that something had happened to him and they were at the Emergency Vet getting him checked out. He had hurt his back and was unable to walk. After having X-Rays done the Vet told us that it was a common condition and with rest he would be back to normal in about 8 weeks.

2 days later when we are taking our son home from the hospital I get a call that his condition has worsened and they were bringing him to a specialist and I should meet them there. At the specialist she checked him out and informed us that he had ruptured a disc so violently that it effectively killed his spinal cord and it was just a matter of time until he would stop breathing.

So I go home pick up my wife and bring her back to the specialist so we could say our good byes and we held him as they put him to sleep.

Since then we have been adjusting to having a baby in out lives and it feels like we haven't been able to deal with the loss. We can't talk about it because it's so upsetting but if we cant talk we can never move on past it. This is the hardest loss I have ever had because it came out of no where so I really don't know how to move on.


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Cass
Hi,
Just didn't want to read and run, but wanted to express my condolences about the loss of your beloved Tebow. I just lost my beloved cat, Phoebe, last Saturday and I can appreciate your feelings of loss.
Congratulations however on the birth of your son, what a shame that your dog died at the same time. Must be very hard.
Be gentle and easy on yourself and take your time with your grief.
Hugs
Cass
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heartsick
I am so very sorry for your loss and yet
I am so thrilled you have a precious new son.
I am sure that your feeling are all mixed up and messed up inside.
I am divorced now -
when I was married I buried my son - at that time
I became a Certified Grief Counselor.
I used the same graveside service for my Bear as I used for my son.
Grief is awful and very difficult.
We all understand here.
When we lose someone we love we don't stop loving them.
LOVE NEVER DIES.
We are ALL here for you.
Please feel free to come here and write whatever you wish for whatever you feel at the moment.
When you are able you can tell us about your life with Tebow and you can post pictures of him.
You can also tell us about your beautiful new son and the joy in your life-
It is possible to feel grief and joy at the same time.
You have so very much going on right now- just try and take it a bit at a time.
My Thoughts are with You in Your Grief and with You in Joy for Your Beautiful Healthy Son!
Susan(heartsick)
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dani
i'm so sorry for your loss :(
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donnalee
Flgolfer,
How unusual to have such a joyous occasion such as the birth of a child and experience a sad loss of another loved family member at the same time.   I can certainly understand how it would be very difficult to allow yourself to grieve the loss of Tebow since you have a brand new baby in the house. 
Hopefully, at some point, you and your wife will be able to talk about what has happened, but I think Susan gave you good advice when she said to take it bit by bit. This is going to take some time. 
I'm glad you were at least able to say goodbye before he passed.  I'm so sorry for this sudden, unexpected loss. At the same time, I want to say congratulations on the birth of your first child. 
My heart goes out to you and your wife on the loss of sweet little Tebow. Please come here anytime you feel the need to vent or just express your feelings.  People here have been through a lot and have a lot of compassion.

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