Your analogy is spot on. I did not know the term horcrux before today but it explains so well what has happened to us. When you refer to "being forever changed", I call it my "new normal". Yes, I function in my everyday world, but there is an incredible and at times, debilitating, sadness that I carry. It's inescapable. It's taken me years to get to the point that I can now celebrate my Carmen's life. I can finally happily recount all the adventures and incredible times we shared. For me, what I have to remember is that she is now happy again, pain free, and enjoying every day of her precious eternal life at Rainbow Bridge. Also for me, I have to remember that it's not goodbye to someone so special she changed my life, but that one day I will be with her again for eternity. She will always occupy the best part of my heart.
My warmest regards, Carmen's and Gigi's mom - alicia