Bichonz
It was his 1-week anniversary on Saturday. I was afraid I wouldn’t be able to handle it. I survived the day, but the last two nights have been brutal. It seems that this loss has triggered every one of my anxieties.

My therapist says this is to be expected, and that trying to distract myself from examining my feelings during the day is just making them come out more at night. I tend to agree, and am tryBig to let them out and name them, so they may not show up at night.

Bur I’m scared, REALLY SCARED, of tonight. I know I’m fortune-telling, but I can’t seem to get it out if my head.
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Jan_H
I am so sorry you are feeling so anxious and scared. Our pets can touch a part of our hearts that others do not. They give us unconditional love and support through all the good and bad times. When they are gone it is heartbreaking and it can trigger many bad feelings. Nights can be brutal.

I hope you and your therapist are finding ways to make it easier. Please let us know how you are doing.

Jan
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Bichonz
I’m taking crash courses in meditation and have bought some melatonin on doctor’s recommendation. I’m staying away from prescription sleeping pills and benzodiazepines.
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KadyMcGann
I have found that my anxiety has been exasperated since the recent loss of my two pets, my cat Gretal and my dog Timmy. I have been waking up in the middle of the night with bad anxiety and have been having insomnia, my thoughts running without me being able to stop them. It's not easy to lose a pet, it's losing a part of yourself, but you're not alone in how you're feeling. Think of the good memories and treasure them, best wishes. 
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Bichonz
Kady, yes, that’s what I experience, I only get about 1 hour before I wake up, go to the bathroom, then can’t get back to sleep. Sometimes my mind races, or else it’s physical agitation that makes me jump out of bed and turn on the light. My doctor first suggested Benadryl, but I’ve taken it in the past a lot, so I think I’m resistant to it. He’s now suggested melatonin, so I’m trying that tonight.
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Lynn_E

I’m sorry you’re going through this. I have anxiety/panic disorder. I get nervous and sick to my stomach sometimes even gagging when I think of my Peter being gone. Have you tried breathing exercises? They can really help in calming your anxiety. Even as simple as 4 seconds in, hold, then 4 seconds out and repeat several times. I’m really scared about peter’s 1 week anniversary on Friday. I’m also scared about going back to work next week and not being able to  properly grieve. 

Please take care. I understand how hard it is. 

Lynn, Peter’s mom 
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Bichonz
Lynn_E, I actually find work is a good distraction to keep my mind from thinking about Mickey. I suppose, though, that doing this just makes me more vulnerable to grieving while trying to fall asleep.

I’ve also found it helpful to talk with my friends and coworkers about their experiences with pet loss. I was surprised that one coworker had experienced grief even worse than what I was feeling, and was actually still grieving their loss.
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Lynn_E
Thank you Bichonz for the advice. My 1 week will be this Friday. I guess it will be good for me to go back to work on Monday. I have the late afternoons to process and grieve, hopefully my sleep will improve at some point. Take care. 
Lynn, Peter’s mom 
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DDs_Mom_12
It makes one week today since I lost my precious cat, DD.  He was fine the night before and had no symptoms.  We took him to an emergency vet, who said she felt a tumor.  He was in shock and critical condition.  They were doing CPR on him when they called us, and we told them to let him go.

Our house and hearts are so empty without him; he followed us around like a dog!  I made a donation in his memory to the animal rescue group that I adopted him from.  That has given me some peace knowing that I am helping other homeless animals in his memory.

It's been said a lot these days that we are all in this together, so everyone on this forum knows what you are going through.  It has also been said that time is the great healer, so your pain will be replaced with loving memories of your companion animal.  Trust me, I know this from experience. 

Peace to you,

Sue 
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Bichonz
Sue, my heart goes out to you, that must have been a difficult decision, but it sounds to me like you made the right choice. You've reminded me that I need to make a donation in memory of Mickey to the AKC Canine Heath Foundation.

Today is Mickey's second week anniversary. We burned incense and invited his spirit to visit the house whenever he wants to.
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DDs_Mom_12
Yes, making a donation in memory of Mickey is a great idea.  It made me feel better about losing my cat DD.

I feel that DD's spirit is still here because I keep seeing him out of the corner of my eye.  He was such a high energy cat, so I imagine his spirit is the same.  
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Bichonz
Sue, are you able to sleep at night? I sincerely hope you are able to.

My loss of Mickey plus another loss (I was transferred to another group at work involuntarily and miss being with my old group) has triggered every single one of my anxieties to the  point where I'll wake up in the middle of the night with a panic attack and can't go back to sleep for several hours. On really bad nights I'm only sleeping 2-1/2 to 3 hours.
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DDs_Mom_12
The first night after he passed was difficult, but I am no longer having any problems sleeping.   On many nights, DD would cuddle up to me, so that is one of the hardest parts for me.  

Is there any way you might be able to see your doctor to get help sleeping?  Also, are you able to talk to any friends from your old group at work?  Give the people in your new group a chance as you probably will make friends with them as well.  

Sue
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Bichonz
I'm so glad for you, Sue.  I am seeing sleep medicine specialists and will be seeing a CBT-I (I for Insomnia) therapist.  I am able to talk to my old group either via Slack or live on Google Meet. And actually, 3 of the 4 other group members used to be in my department before they were split off, so in a way it's something of a reunion. But I still miss my old group.
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DDs_Mom_12
I am so glad  you are getting help to sleep.  

Sue
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