Pat~ When I was reading your canine cancer thread I hadn't yet read Poncho's story- or your husband's. I am SO sorry for the additional stress you are going through. I wouldn't listen to your sister-- follow your heart and you will know what to do and when the time is right. It's my (unsolicited!) opinion that having a new baby around may help distract you and ease your pain when your husband's time has come. This may not be appropriate, but when I was telling someone that my husband didn't understand my grief at all, and was a little annoyed by my sobbing, they said that if you want to know the difference between a spouse and a dog, lock both of them in the trunk of your car, and when you let them out an hour later, which one is happy to see you? It's the loss of that unconditional love that is the most heart-breaking.