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Bear_Bear
Bob, I just saw this thread and I first want to say how deeply sorry I am that you are facing such a devastating loss.  I understand why you are terrified, I understand why you are in pain.  I do.  But I must ask you to please consider Buster, as the other kind people have already implored you to do.  Buster is depending on you to help him make a safe and peaceful crossing to the Rainbow Bridge.  It's the hardest thing to do.  And it's the most loving thing to do.  Letting Buster suffer one extra moment to make you feel better is not going to ease your pain and suffering one iota and if you allow Buster to pass away on his own you cannot imagine the guilt you will feel in the future.  Talk to Buster now tell him what you are going to do for him.  Love him enough to do it, please.  And bless you.
Robin Adrian "Little Bear"s Mom
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http://RainbowsBridge.com/residents/ROBIN001/Resident.htm
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colleenm
Bob, I read your posts and those who posted to you through tears.  I feel so bad for you during this most difficult time.  It is so hard to make that decision to put our babies to sleep.  I had to do it quite some years ago.  I have 2 cats now whom I love so much.  Please know that everyone is here for you.. 
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BT1957
Bear bear,

Wow, you have really put some things into perspective. I know what you are saying is right and like you there are others who feel the same way. I have met some great people on the forum su far and I think you all are wonderful. I am very happy to have found the site.

Colleen, thanks, a lot. I am trying very hard with everything I have in me to help my baby.
Buster's daddy
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Angel
Bob, first let me say that I am very sorry for all that you and Buster are going through.  I can't advise you as to what to do.  It is sad that Buster is so young.  One of the things that have been said is the reason one  of our furkids leave us so soon is because a human child had died and one of our special loans from God is needed to help that child with its transition.

I believe that the furloves we receive in our lives are really loaned to us to teach us things about unconditional love, judging others, and how to appreciate each day we are given.  When we have learned the specific thing they have come to teach us then they let us go.

If it comes to the point of you having to release Buster to the Meadow in the Summerland at Rainbow Bridge;  please, please keep in mind it is not something we DO to them.  It is something we do FOR them.  It is the ultimate gift of love to help them move beyond the pain and suffering. 

Buster is a beautiful spirit/soul and can truly never die.  He will just shed his earth coat.

These people who have responded to you are speaking from their hearts... the same hearts that shattered when their furbabies had to leave them and let them move on in their life.  As much as we do not want to hear it or admit it, that is what has been predestined , it just comes down to if we love them with the same unconditional love they taught us; to let them go when it is time.

God bless and guide you,

Angel
Chatmaster and monitor of the chatrooms. Lost furkids, Smokey, Lady, Pepper, Missy, Scooter, BJ, Dakota, Ms. Fortune
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heartsick
Angel -You said something that made me think and brought me a sort of peace - not about my Bear but my son.
Just before my son died - my aunt did something so very stupid I could barely forgive her as it caused the death of her very sweet little black toy poodle - she was about 7 years old. I understood my aunt's grief and listened to her and tried to help her over the phone as much as I could. I told her she had every right to grieve and feel awful. We all loved that sweet little tiny poodle. She was just so loving and sweet. She adored my father and every picture we have of them together my father is carrying her around. Very shortly after this my son died - I like to think that sweet little dog was there for him to play with when he arrived just weeks later. I never heard that before but it does bring me peace. I know my Bear is with his siblings (human) and my grandmother. Thank you.
Susan(heartsick)
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Angel
God does indeed work in mysterious ways.  My purpose was to help Bob understand his responsibility to Buster.  That in exchange for the unconditional love we get there comes a time when we must take our beloveds pain into our hearts and set them free from.

I never dreamed that my message would bring someone else peace and understanding.  I am so very sorry about your son.  I really think you are right in how/why things happened.  Whatever it was that your Aunt did hopefully you can now put that to rest.  There was a greater purpose to what happened with her poodle.

God bless you Susan and may you find comfort and peace of heart.


Angel
Chatmaster and monitor of the chatrooms. Lost furkids, Smokey, Lady, Pepper, Missy, Scooter, BJ, Dakota, Ms. Fortune
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BT1957
Angel,

Buster has taught me unconditional love, one that I swore I'd never let myself get into again for personal reasons. I can't imagine life without my puppy beside me, I can't stop thinking about it. I have had dreams the last 3 nights that have woke me up, I didn't want to go back to sleep because of them.

I am praying for strength to get me through this. It's just unimaginable to me to be without him.

Thank you and what you wrote is very true.

Bob
Buster's daddy
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Mistysmama
Dear Bob, I know how utterly terrifying it is. It is unthinkable, that they will have to "leave us".

It was like that with me and my Misty. I love her and have always loved her, like nothing and no-one else. When she lived she was my sister, my Soul, my purpose, my real true friend, my joy, fun, common sense....the only thing that made sense to me after a life which -for the main part- didn't. I had always been a misfit, never found any kind of true niche amongst people, though I was friendly. Nothing worked....until Misty came. She melded with me and transformed me.
 
Then suddenly, she died. I had about 1 week-10 days' warning, and only really faced it for the last 5 days, as she was behaving very well....I kept thinking the vet could be wrong with his diagnosis, until the ultrasound confirmed it.
 
After she passed, I was literally nothing. Could barely move, eat, or relate to this world.
I did not believe in life after death. Also, although I liked the "Rainbow Bridge" imagery, I reckoned it was just made of sugar, to coat a very bitter pill. A little fairy tale to pacify us. But not really, literally, true.
 
How wrong I was.
 
After 1 month of complete submission to a grief I was sure had no comforts, I was shocked by an event.
Misty (the Inner Misty -not the physical form) came rushing in to me one evening, and absolutely knocked me sideways. Other events took place after that which were solid proof, in my opinion, of their survival of what we call "death" in the first place, and in the second place, their desire to keep in touch with us, and their undying, unconditional love.
 
 
I don't mean to go on and on....I just want you to know that they are much much more than the weak and failing bodies they temporarily inhabit. They are their Inner Selves -and those things are terrifically real. I know that all the time Misty was with me what was it I truly loved? The colour of her fur? The shape of her belly? Her eyes?....Well yes I loved all those things so very much, but what I really loved was HER. The unseen Soul part of her that made her "Misty".
That doesn't die. And I am grateful to my sweet girl for showing me that. She also showed me our relationship does not have to end. It still hasn't ended -and it's been 16 months now since she went.
 
She showed me how to trust when I sensed her strongly, and not to think it was all in my mind. (It obviously wasn't!)
 
Yes she seems far away sometimes, but returns always. My unconditional love for her Spirit allows her to do what she needs to do, go where she needs to go. And knows her love will never ever forget me. She taught me those things.
 
She was glad to leave her failing sick body. When I actually touched her in the next world, she had a body identical to the one she left behind.
 
Please allow Buster to take his spirit journey when he needs to, and trust the love.
 
Many, many blessings to both your Spirits.
Hold the love like a little light. It is all you have, or will ever have, to find your way home.

Misty's Blog..a Dogfight with Cancer http://www.mistysblog69.blogspot.co.uk

Misty's life after death: http://www.dog2spirit.com
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Lety
You are in my prayers Bob!

Hugs.
Lety
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gayle
Oh Bob I am so sorry for what you are going through. Two weeks ago today I had to put my 13 yr old Boston Terrier, Spreewell down. It was the hardest decision I have ever had to make. Spreewell started getting sick late last winter. He was diagnosed with Auto immune anemia, his red blood cell count was very low, needed blood transfusions, was put on steroids among other meds. The steroids just bloated his body and made him uninterested in anything but food. He wasn't getting better so took him to a specialist and she didn't think it was that at all. Through countless vet and specialist visits, tons of needles and exams, he was such a trooper. When I look back I can see he was really declining. Then the internal specialist suggested another procedure, an endoscopy, where they would put him under and stick a camera down his throat and see if it was tumors or ulcers that was causing the problem. If it were tumors, she said they wouldn't even wake him. I was all set to do it. In the meantime my family members (who are all dog lovers/owners) were saying, maybe its time to put him down. I just couldn't accept it. I just couldn't find the courage to do it. When a lot of people you love and respect keep telling you it might be time, I had to really soul search and come up with what I thought was the right thing to do. In the few days before the procedure was set, I really could just see my baby declining. His eyes were vacant and he looked at me like, "mom, I cant do this anymore". That's when I knew I had to let him go. The day before I spent the entire day just being with him. Taking him to the beach, which he always loved, but now was just disinterested. Feeding him his favorite meal. Lying with him just rubbing his belly, telling him how much I loved him. Taking photos with him. The next day I went first thing to the vet. I tried not to cry in front of him because I didn't want him to be scared. I held him in my arms and repeated over and over what a good boy he was and how much we loved him and how much joy he brought us. Told him about Rainbow Bridge and that I would see him again one day. He slowly slipped away and it was very peaceful. When he was gone, I let the tears flow. I have to say once it was done, I had a sense of relief that I didn't have to agonize about the decision anymore.  Maybe that will happen to you.  And LET the tears flow, it is a healthy way to get through the grieving process. This website has a section: When to know its time, have you seen it? It was very helpful to me. One line was something like "the most unselfish act of love we can offer is in ending a pets suffering we must be willing to accept our own". I found it so very true. So Bob I pray that God gives you the strength to make this very difficult decision, you do it for them, for Buster. Maybe he will give you "the look", like Spreewell did for me. Sending hugs and love your way...
gayle zigmund
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BT1957
Gayle,

I am so emotional already thinking about what's right that I just can't imagine when my Buster is gone. I am even considering talking with a preacher (something I haven't done for many years). The best part of my day is getting home to my baby and him greeting me, I rush home from work just to make sure he's still ok and alive.

I don't know how you all get through this, seems so hard. I can't imagine why something like this has to happen to Buster.

Thanks for your comments.
Buster's daddy
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gayle
Hi Bob
I'm wondering how things are going with your boy Buster. Believe it or not, you have already started your grieving process. I grieved for Spreewell before he was even gone. For his pain and suffering, for his imminent loss, and what the future would hold for me without him. Like I said, making the decision, (hardest one of my life) was in fact a relief. Then the next phase of grief came. There is no way to avoid it. You HAVE to go through the motions. Something unbelievable happened a few days before I did make my decision that I didn't mention before. We were out on my deck where we overlook this sort of mountain. I looked and saw this beautiful rainbow. It hadn't really rained, and it wasn't really the time of year you usually get rainbows. I just admired it and didn't think more of it. Couple days later after Spreewell passed, it occurred to me. Maybe God put that rainbow there to let me know Spreewell was ready for Rainbow Bridge. I truly believe that and find it quite amazing.
I too use to rush home to see my boy. I would leave work early just to do so. I couldn't WAIT to see him and hold him, be with him. I still come home (although now I take my time) and call out to him, go where he use to be in his bed. He is still there, just not his body. I still spend quite time with him and talk to him. I have learned to embrace this time, for he is still so fresh in my memory.
Look for Gods signs. You will find them.
Peace and love,
Gayle
gayle zigmund
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BT1957
Gayle,

Buster is still fighting, I talked with my vet and he put Buster on steroids and antibiotic's. He is on my mind so much that its hard for me to focus on anything else. Buster is as important to me as my kids are. I often think about if I am faced with euthanasia if I can do it, I feel so weak when it comes to him. I have spoke with others that have went through it and most couldn't bare being with their babies, I can't imagine not being there but not sure if I could handle watching him slip away.


I am honestly a mess and have no idea how I can do this when the time comes. I can't imagine going home when he's gone, right now its my happy place but without my baby I don't know how I'll be, so many memories of him when he wasn't sick, he was so happy and full of energy and still, he loves seeing me when I get home.

Sorry to ramble on but I am a loss soul right now.

Thanks for asking, Bob.
Buster's daddy
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janey021013
I took my baby to vets yesterday,she was a 6years old staffy dog..she has seen me through some dark moments over the last 6yrs...I got her from a rescue home 5yrs ago to comfort me over my mums death..she slept with and licked my many tears when I was crying over my mums death...she was there when I had my youngest son and got up with me for every night feed..and has been my comfort when my eldest son nearly died last yr and has slept with my son when he was Ill again this yr. She had a cancerous Tumor removed last yr...but vets warned me it may come back...my baby girl acted normal for mths of this year,so
whole family did,not suspect the Tumor had returned..when my baby girl started bleeding a lot from her back end we thought she was on heat..but I felt something was up cause she was overly effectionant...and she a very caring loving dog anyway..I put off the vets for few wks mainly cause I suppected she knew she was,not going to be here much longer.she went to the vets yesterday and gave masses of kisses before she went in..the found out she had inoperable tumour, I made the decision for her to be put to sleep...as much as I wanted to bring her home I could,not..I son,t know how I,all fill the void in my life...but I do know she was sent to me for a treason and I,all see her again..I loved that dog like a child..I just could,not see her suffer..you will feel terrible if you leave it and leave it...4 and half yes is short..I really feel for you..I feel thankful I had my baby for 5yrs and that she came into my life..hope you don't,t have wrestle to much with what to do it not easy..
Jane
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