DaniG
I lost my 19 yr old black lab two months. ago. She was always under my feet, getting in the shower, out to feed horses, riding in the car, sleeping in the California King and begging for snacks. I have had losses before but this one has been so difficult. I honestly am so heart broken. I posted this on the forum because only our community understands. I pray for all that have had the loss of their best friend. Please tell me it will get better.

Dani G.
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Memories_of_Marmalade


Dear Danielle,

I am so, so sorry to read of your recent loss. Thank for your sharing some of you & your beloved black lab's story here and those wonderful photo images of him that you posted. He certainly was a handsome & grand old man in the end. 19 years is an extraordinary lifespan for a pup! but the truth is "forever" would not be long enough to be with our special friends.

I am glad that your paths crossed all those years ago with your dog, and that you provided him with what sounds like a very comfortable, loving and inspiring life. Seeing horses and sleeping in a California King bed etc. By the sounds of your writing he was most likely your "Spirit Animal." That is why you are in such a deep grief.

Yes! statistically speaking (which is evidenced in many of the posts here on this forum by our Grief Veterans), the majority of us will heal and recover fully from what we are experiencing. In the meantime please know that you are not alone, and we are with you. We will get through this together!

Kind regards & my sincerest condolences,
James
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Jan_H
Dani,

I am very sorry for your loss of your beautiful lab. She must have had an extraordinary life - horses, cars, king bed, snacks and showers. 19 years is a long life for a lab but I know it is never long enough.

As James said, you are not alone. There are many wonderful and compassionate people here who understand your pain. Please feel free to post feelings, pictures and stories of your beautiful girl as much or as little as you feel like.

My condolences,
Jan
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DavidSanchez
So sorry for your loss.Since I have a bias for labs and think they are the greatest gift, I wanted to share a story I found on a Lab website. It affected me as my lab actually sprained her tail from wagging (didnt know that was possible) 

DOGS NEVER DIE. THEY DON’T KNOW HOW TO. THEY GET TIRED, AND VERY OLD, AND THEIR BONES HURT. OF COURSE THEY DON’T DIE. IF THEY DID THEY WOULD NOT WANT TO ALWAYS GO FOR A WALK, EVEN LONG AFTER THEIR OLD BONES SAY:” NO, NO, NOT A GOOD IDEA. LET’S NOT GO FOR A WALK.” NOPE, DOGS ALWAYS WANT TO GO FOR A WALK. THEY MIGHT GET ONE STEP BEFORE THEIR AGING TENDONS COLLAPSE THEM INTO A HEAP ON THE FLOOR, BUT THAT’S WHAT DOGS ARE. THEY WALK.

IT’S NOT THAT THEY DISLIKE YOUR COMPANY. ON THE CONTRARY, A WALK WITH YOU IS ALL THERE IS. THEIR BOSS, AND THE CACAPHONIC SYMPHONY OF ODOR THAT THE WORLD IS. CAT POOP, ANOTHER DOG’S MARK, A ROTTING CHICKEN BONE ( EXULTATION), AND YOU. THAT’S WHAT MAKES THEIR WORLD PERFECT, AND IN A PERFECT WORLD DEATH HAS NO PLACE.

HOWEVER, DOGS GET VERY VERY SLEEPY. THAT’S THE THING, YOU SEE. THEY DON’T TEACH YOU THAT AT THE FANCY UNIVERSITY WHERE THEY EXPLAIN ABOUT QUARKS, GLUONS, AND KEYNESIAN ECONOMICS. THEY KNOW SO MUCH THEY FORGET THAT DOGS NEVER DIE. IT’S A SHAME, REALLY. DOGS HAVE SO MUCH TO OFFER AND PEOPLE JUST TALK A LOT.

WHEN YOU THINK YOUR DOG HAS DIED, IT HAS JUST FALLEN ASLEEP IN YOUR HEART. AND BY THE WAY, IT IS WAGGING IT’S TAIL MADLY, YOU SEE, AND THAT’S WHY YOUR CHEST HURTS SO MUCH AND YOU CRY ALL THE TIME. WHO WOULD NOT CRY WITH A HAPPY DOG WAGGING ITS TAIL IN THEIR CHEST. OUCH! WAP WAP WAP WAP WAP, THAT HURTS. BUT THEY ONLY WAG WHEN THEY WAKE UP. THAT’S WHEN THEY SAY: “THANKS BOSS! THANKS FOR A WARM PLACE TO SLEEP AND ALWAYS NEXT TO YOUR HEART, THE BEST PLACE.”

WHEN THEY FIRST FALL ASLEEP, THEY WAKE UP ALL THE TIME, AND THAT’S WHY, OF COURSE, YOU CRY ALL THE TIME. WAP, WAP, WAP. AFTER A WHILE THEY SLEEP MORE. (REMEMBER, A DOG WHILE IS NOT A HUMAN WHILE. YOU TAKE YOUR DOG FOR WALK, IT’S A DAY FULL OF ADVENTURE IN AN HOUR. THEN YOU COME HOME AND IT’S A WEEK, WELL ONE OF YOUR DAYS, BUT A WEEK, REALLY, BEFORE THE DOG GETS ANOTHER WALK. NO WONDER THEY LOVE WALKS.)

ANYWAY, LIKE I WAS SAYING, THEY FALL ASLEEP IN YOUR HEART, AND WHEN THEY WAKE UP, THEY WAG THEIR TAIL. AFTER A FEW DOG YEARS, THEY SLEEP FOR LONGER NAPS, AND YOU WOULD TOO. THEY WERE A GOOD DOG ALL THEIR LIFE, AND YOU BOTH KNOW IT. IT GETS TIRING BEING A GOOD DOG ALL THE TIME, PARTICULARLY WHEN YOU GET OLD AND YOUR BONES HURT AND YOU FALL ON YOUR FACE AND DON’T WANT TO GO OUTSIDE TO PEE WHEN IT IS RAINING BUT DO ANYWAY, BECAUSE YOU ARE A GOOD DOG. SO UNDERSTAND, AFTER THEY HAVE BEEN SLEEPING IN YOUR HEART, THEY WILL SLEEP LONGER AND LONGER.

BUT DON’T GET FOOLED. THEY ARE NOT “GONE.” THERE’S NO SUCH THING, REALLY. THEY ARE SLEEPING IN YOUR HEART, AND THEY WILL WAKE UP, USUALLY WHEN YOU’RE NOT EXPECTING IT. IT’S JUST WHO THEY ARE.

 

I FEEL SORRY FOR PEOPLE WHO DON’T HAVE DOGS SLEEPING IN THEIR HEART. YOU’VE MISSED SO MUCH. EXCUSE ME, I HAVE TO GO CRY NOW.”

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