Some-times they are so sick that all you can do Is "Let go". Doesn't mean that you don't care. Some -times God just takes over and their Isn't alot you can do.
I know that guilt, I wasn't with Mia when she died, she was alone, and for the first week I could barely function I was so sad and guilty. But I have come to realise that she was at home and her home was the place she was most comfortable, so it wasn't so bad afterall. Just try and take it one day at a time and know that we all understand how you are feeling and to come and post when you can. I wish you peace xx
My Lucy was my best friend - nobody needs to be ashamed to admit that. Friendship with an animal is a special category of friendship. I had to have my dog euthanized, and I didn't want to watch her breathe her last - just couldn't bear it, so I gently passed her to her vet -- I knew he'd be gentle and kind with her. There's really no easy way to lose an old and beloved friend. You're a 23 year old guy - it doesn't surprise me in the least that you'd want to go get drunk to escape the pain of losing your dog...we all deal with it in our own way.
I am so sorry for your loss. You are right, when a pet dies, it's like a part of us has died..I know how hard it can be. I am sure your furbaby understood why you were not there. Once when I was moving interstate, we could not immediately take our furbaby, Shampoo, with us. I was only a kid then. We thought we would settle down and would come back to collect him within a month. We left him with our neighbours. However, when dad went to get him after a few weeks, he had already passed away. He was young, beautiful, and so wonderful...and it’s so many years now, still I can’t help feel guilty and wish we had moved him with us. And it hurts whenever I think of him...and I often pray to God and tell HIM that he should tell Shampoo how much I still love him and miss him, and how we never meant to leave him like that. I can understand exactly how you feel. If only we would wish things away or make things different...but please don’t blame yourself, you only did what you thought was best. Dogs are very sensitive, and they can pick up their master’s moods very easily. Maybe if you had stayed with her, she would have been more distressed knowing you were upset. Maybe it could have made her passing away more painful. I know that your best friend is safe, happy, and healthy at the bridge...probably, she is chasing my pet bird, Motu, who passed away a few days back. I wish you peace, and though it is difficult, please be happy that your baby is in a better world now...
Justsomeguy -- yes, dogs are members of the family, and you bring up a good point -- losing a beloved pet will bring up memories of other loved ones who have passed. When my Lucy passed, I, too, re-experienced much of the pain I felt upon losing other family members. I also relived the deaths of previous much-loved pets. So you have old grief and new grief coming down on you all at once. If it would help, you might be able to find a pet loss support group in your community. My local humane society has one -- I'm thinking of going to it.
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