CharliesMama
It was a beautiful card for the loss of a pet which I thought was thoughtful but...when I opened it up, there were all these handwritten messages from the two vets and their staff! Nearly broke down seeing that! Nine messages in all.  Both vets had helped me with Charlie since I had him, so their messages were very personal ones.  It was a lovely gesture! I really need to do something for them. Maybe a Hallmark card with my own personal message is in order.

Yesterday was one week that I had to make the difficult decision to let my 13yr old Charlie go.  I feel all the feelings we all feel and I struggle to hold onto the times in my day that I smile, laugh, or just feel happy.  Reading that card was one of those moments. Very emotional, but feeling very blessed. 

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spiritdog
I am glad you have good vets with a heart. Not all do. I had one vet send a card 2 weeks late, and then it was just a bunch of signatures not one comment by anyone. I'll never go there again and left a bad review as well.

Now my groomers place? They all wrote messages and yes it means alot to us, that they too were touched by our pet.
"People disappoint, dogs never do" - spiritdog

"You MUST be your pets ADVOCATE, if it doesn't feel right walk away." - spiritdog
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CharliesMama
I'm so sorry spiritdog!  You would think people who work with animals would be more sensitive. I didn't realize how lucky I was.  But at least your groomers did do the right thing.  These heartfelt words of condolence mean so much to us!
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spiritdog
Yes Charliesmama, the words mean a lot. That card went in the trash as did a "friend" who sent one but just signed it.......no words. His specialists sent flowers as soon as they found out, another sent one that said "he had more spirit and character than most humans".......those I kept.......good vets are hard to find.
"People disappoint, dogs never do" - spiritdog

"You MUST be your pets ADVOCATE, if it doesn't feel right walk away." - spiritdog
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danzey
CharliesMama............   ....You have amazing vets!  It seems silly (and meaningless) which may be why many people won't/don't acknowledge a pet, but spiritdog and you are right; just a word or two, (just acknowledge it) and move on.  It means everything!!!  Two weeks ago I had to bury four babies (outside strays) and one other stray who was on the way to the vet (when he passed away).  I believe everything deserves a name so I named them Jax, Doe, Fawn, Jilly, and Bean.  Anyway, last Saturday I received a package in the mail from the vet(?)  What could they be sending me(?)  Jax I had cremated and is now home with me.  Inside the package was a knitted/crocheted heart with Jax's name stitched on it along with a note.  I'm really not sure who it's from exactly(?)  The last name is the same as the vet, but is it his wife, daughter, granddaughter(?)  I don't really know.  I just know that, stray or not, Jax (and the others) mattered.  And because I really wanted her to know how much it meant, I sent off a thank you note to her.............   ....danzey 
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CharliesMama
That is so heartwarming danzey!  We just want others to know that our pets DID MATTER! They were a BIG DEAL! And our grief is very real.  It means so much for others to really care.  My neighbors sent me a card along with a sweet message. When I posted about Charlie on Facebook, I got more responses than any other post.  In fact, some sent me private messages. Others made separate posts tagging me with a beautiful poem.  I truly believe there are a lot more animal lovers than not.  Now my sister may have to make the difficult decision to let her cat go tomorrow and having been there over a week ago, I know how to support her.  I know what she is feeling cuz I felt it and still feel it. 

Thank you for responding danzey and spiritdog. Take care :)

P.S. I'm going to send my thank you notes out right now!
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ahartofilis
Hello Charlies Mama,
                          Your post brought back the experience that I had with my Vet. I am sorry for the loss of Charlie. He looks like a real cutie! The card that you got made a huge difference to you. It seems that you have a very special vet with a caring team as well.
            I had recently started to bring my girl Coco, a Lab mix to her last vet. She is a younger woman and I must admit that I put her through a lot with the questions and care of my girls last days. It was a really tough time as she was diagnosed with bone cancer last November and 3 weeks later, I had to let her go. She was 10 yrs. old.
        I was actually surprised to receive a card from my vet and her staff. I thought it was extremely kind of her, very thoughtful. That card and her sincere attitude showed me a lot about the sort of person she is. To this day I bring all of my pets to her, 2 Siamese cats and my adopted young Labrador. She has been exceptional with my adopted canine Rudy. She knew how much I loved and will always love my dear girl Coco. Her actions show it........
           I sincerely hope that you find peace and healing in the days ahead.........please take care..........Sincerely, Andrea, Coco, Rudy
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Graceful
Hi CharliesMama,

I know beautiful when I see it: you and your Charlie make a beautiful presence in the photo that you posted, and it's clear what a loving pair you were and always will be.

I am so pleased that you received a pet loss card that was done with such sensitivity from your vets and their staff.  A gesture like that means so much, I know, because I had the good fortune of receiving a card as well, when my kitty, Twirlie, passed away of pancreatic cancer.   It is such a comfort to know that our vets think of us as individuals and as friends.  

I ran into a friend, who is one of my fitness instructors, a few days ago; she was very distraught and had tears in her eyes; she managed to get the words out to tell me she had just put her beloved Golden down.   I could not get my arms around her fast enough, and we had a chance to talk.  She knew she had found the most sympathetic soul in me to understand exactly how she felt.  I knew I would see her at the gym yesterday, and had found the perfect card for her the very day she told me of her loss.  It was a blank card, with a picture of a gold-colored dog on it,  wearing a halo and angel wings (!), and I wrote my own message of comfort to her and was crying when I wrote it.  See, we know how much those hand written cards mean, with personal messages, and I wanted her to know her loss was felt by me as well. 

You and Charlie were absolute sweethearts together, and I know you miss him with all your heart.  You sound like such a sweet and caring person, and I wish you peace, in remembrance of Charlie. 

Sending comfort, faith, hope and love from my heart to yours,
Grace and Twirlie xox

CharliesMama wrote:
It was a beautiful card for the loss of a pet which I thought was thoughtful but...when I opened it up, there were all these handwritten messages from the two vets and their staff! Nearly broke down seeing that! Nine messages in all.  Both vets had helped me with Charlie since I had him, so their messages were very personal ones.  It was a lovely gesture! I really need to do something for them. Maybe a Hallmark card with my own personal message is in order.

Yesterday was one week that I had to make the difficult decision to let my 13yr old Charlie go.  I feel all the feelings we all feel and I struggle to hold onto the times in my day that I smile, laugh, or just feel happy.  Reading that card was one of those moments. Very emotional, but feeling very blessed.  

"Now that the time has come
 Soon gone is the day,
 There upon some distant shore
 You will hear me say,
 Long as the day in the summer time
 Deep as the wine-dark sea,
 I'll keep your heart with mine
 Till you come to me"  (LM)

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CharliesMama
Thank you so much to the both of you for your responses! I am so glad that we have had positive experiences with vets and have felt firsthand the power of words in our time of need.  Because of our experiences, we can now "pay it forward", and keep this chain of love going.  I sent out my thank you card to the 2 vets and their entire staff and wrote a letter inside, letting them know how much their words meant to me.  I think that positive feedback will help them the next time they have to send out another condolence card (and that they will keep up this tradition!). 

I'm sorry for your losses, but thank you for taking the time to share.

And thank you for complimenting my sweet boy! He's a scruffy thing, but cutie nevertheless! :D
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mandys_mommy
Hi CharliesMama, our vet sent us flowers along with a really nice card. It was a nice gesture and we totally did not expect it. I went there quite a bit because my little girl was on medication, but she also had all kinds of bumps which I always had them check out. When I received the flowers I thanked them with a letter and included some photos from happier days. I wrote about all the good times I had with her and how special she was. My little girl was a 12 year old Cocker Spaniel.
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Marissa925
11-10-15

Hello everyone,

After receiving treatment on a regular basis and faithfully keeping all appointments, the veterinary hospital I took my cat to for over two years did not send me any consolations. It still hurts me to this day, and my little girl Bootsie died this past August 9, 2015. On the day of her death, I went to the veterinary hospital to responsibly return unused liquid morphine and to receive a refund for unused bags of I.V. fluids. (Yes, I cared for her at home giving her the works and royal treatment.)
She came to this veterinary practice with a diagnosis of CKD (Chronic Kidney Disease) previously diagnosed by another veterinary practice.
Approximately a year and a quarter later, she received her first diagnosis from the veterinary hospital who, two years later, would neglect to recognize her death and fail to give consolation to her surviving mom. It was New Year's Eve 2014 when my little tabby cat girl Bootsie was diagnosed with cancer of the upper jaw- an aggressive form of oral cancer. This past Spring, she was diagnosed with Anemia, her last diagnosis given by them.

I provided palliative care to her at home, so that she could live peacefully in her own loving environment which she felt so secure in.
I made this loving decision to dedicate my time and efforts and do the best I could to care for her at home. I kept my promise to her until her natural end.

Sincerely,
Heartbroken Mama
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Marissa925
Marissa925 wrote:
11-10-15

Hello everyone,

After receiving treatment on a regular basis and faithfully keeping all appointments, the veterinary hospital I took my cat to for over two years did not send me any consolations. It still hurts me to this day, and my little girl Bootsie died this past August 9, 2015. On the day of her death, I went to the veterinary hospital to responsibly return unused liquid morphine and to receive a refund for unused bags of I.V. fluids. (Yes, I cared for her at home giving her the works and royal treatment.)

She came to this veterinary practice in April 2013 with a diagnosis of CKD (Chronic Kidney Disease) previously diagnosed by another veterinary practice.

In September 2014 she received her first diagnosis from this veterinary hospital who failed to recognize her death within a year later and failed to give consolation to her surviving mom. It was New Year's Eve 2014 when my little girl tabby cat Bootsie was diagnosed with cancer of the upper jaw- an aggressive form of oral cancer. The remedy to try to help this was laser therapy treatments, weekly or bi-weekly or as needed.
It was a commitment I made and kept diligently, done out of sheer love for her.
Little did I know that all this would later on be to no avail, as she would (and did) succumb to oral cancer that fateful 9th day in August 2015.

This past Spring 2015 she was diagnosed with Anemia, her last diagnosis given by this same aforementioned veterinary hospital.

I provided palliative care to her at home, from April 2013 - August 9th, 2015, so that she could live out her days peacefully in her own loving environment which she had been so accustomed to and felt so secure in.
She was almost 18 & 1/2 years old.
I made this loving decision to dedicate my time and efforts and do the best I could to care for her at home.
I kept my promise to her until her natural end.

Sincerely,
Heartbroken Mama
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Spennys_Mom
I received a card from my vet as well. With a nice note and signature from everyone there.  You could tell from the notes that they knew Spenny and why he was special.  When I was speaking with the vet when this all started, I was sitting on the floor with Spenny.  I started to cry.  With no hesitation, she came down, sat on the floor with me and held my hand while I cried.  She was wonderful through the entire process and so was her staff.  She reassured me over and over that she would support me with any choice I made.  When I told her my decision to bring Spenny back after the weekend and let him go, she made me feel better about my choice.  And when the time came, she gave us lots of time alone with him, both before and after.  My daughter wanted to be with us, so the vet explained in detail everything that was going to happen, so that she was prepared.  I have always used the same veterinary practice, but this was the first time seeing this doctor with a problem.  My normal vet was away, and I think there must have been a reason for that.  I'm not sure any other doctor could have been so understanding and patient with me. Even when I went back to pick up his ashes, at least 4 people came out from the back to hug me and offer their condolences. They are definitely in the right field.     
Spenny's Mom
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Marissa925
11-21-15

This is "Heartbroken Mama" writing....

Good for you all, but my story wasn't a happy one and had a lonely, isolated, unsupportive ending, unlike all of yours. "Spenny's Mom", did you read my posting? Your posting was the next posting made after I made my sorrowful one.
If you did read mine, then first extending your sympathy would've been the kind thing to do before writing about all the support you had.
I'm sorry for your loss of Spenny.
This goes for all of you. What is the good of a support system if there is no support? Support should be shared for all those who need it. Thank you.
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