jennicole
we had to put our angel down yesterday and his brother is just so depressed, he's been sitting at the front door just waiting for him to come home, i don't know how to help him. any advice would be greatly appreciated. 
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reovi
I'm going through the same thing.  We put down Polar on Sunday and his sister was looking everywhere for him.  I am trying to take her on more walks to get her out of the house.  What do you think of a dogpark?  I think just sticking to routines and adding in fun new activities is the way to go, but honestly I'm jut feeling my way along here, too, and don't have a solid answer-only suggestions...
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Susie_Squillions
I have read that it helps to vary their routines, so they don't expect the other dog to be there every time they do something.  Explore a new route on your walk, and find other new things to do together.

I am of the school that believes our animals are much more in tune with spiritual things than we are, and that they are more aware of what's going on than we might imagine.  Watch your surviving dogs for signs that they are somehow communicating with their friends who have gone ahead.  I believe they are one of the first ways our Bridge Kids get through to us to let us know they are O.K.  I realize you might think I'm crazy, but so what?  It works for me. ;-)


My heart is battered and bruised, but I will not let it break. It holds such precious cargo, I must protect it now. (Susie Squillions)

"Memories of loved ones are like songs in our soul." Margaret Wakeley

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BUDDY GUY AYRES~LYNCH'S RESIDENCY:
http://www.rainbowsbridge.com/residents/Buddy128/resident.HTM

KING BING THE GOD CAT'S RESIDENCY:
http://rainbowsbridge.com/residents/BINGO009/Resident.htm

In one of the stars, I shall be living.
In one of them, I shall be laughing.
And so it will be as if all the stars were laughing when you look at the sky at night.
~ The Little Prince, Antoine de Saint-Exupery
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reovi
That makes sense, I'll change things up for Pearl...
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jennicole
thank you all so much! he's an outdoor dog but since yesterday i've been letting him in the house more, he won't go in either of the dog houses we have outside, he just lays next to them. my heart aches for him
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dalmatian

Hi to all-----DOGS GREIVE just like we do after the loss of an humane.  There are lots of things you can do.  Take them out of the sad .  Change the space, or take them for a walk. Give them  extra attention. Don't do what you did before. Change Is the key. A VET/DOCTOR TAUGHT ME THIS. I practice this every day. Let-go--------------They can only live for so long.

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Susie_Squillions
Dear Jenni,

I hope you've found a way to help your surviving pup.  I know how hard it is, and especially when you're struggling with your own grief. 

There is no need to "let go," but when the time comes, you will be ready to move on. You will always hold on to the memories of your angel dog, and he will never be more than a whisper away from you.  It's true that they can only live for so long, but we're never ready for the end of our time with them. 

I hope that you and your surviving dog are both healing a little more with each passing day.  It can be a real roller coaster, and I know you will find comfort in having each other for comfort.


My heart is battered and bruised, but I will not let it break. It holds such precious cargo, I must protect it now. (Susie Squillions)

"Memories of loved ones are like songs in our soul." Margaret Wakeley

T.J.'S RESIDENCY:
http://RainbowsBridge.com/residents/TJ006/Resident.htm

BUDDY GUY AYRES~LYNCH'S RESIDENCY:
http://www.rainbowsbridge.com/residents/Buddy128/resident.HTM

KING BING THE GOD CAT'S RESIDENCY:
http://rainbowsbridge.com/residents/BINGO009/Resident.htm

In one of the stars, I shall be living.
In one of them, I shall be laughing.
And so it will be as if all the stars were laughing when you look at the sky at night.
~ The Little Prince, Antoine de Saint-Exupery
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misscandy77

I read that it takes about 2 weeks for another pet to understand that their friend is gone.  My mom had said that it seemed easier when the dog died at home, the others didn't look, they just knew.  I think it's harder when they go to the vet or for a walk and don't return but they still miss the routines they had with them.  My 2 cats looked so confused when my Chloe dog didn't come home.  The bed that was hers that they always took over, they didn't go in it for weeks.  It was weird, like it was respect for her.  They'd go to the doors and just look and meow.  It broke my heart.  But soon they adjust, they are more resilient than us.  Some pets are more social so they may benefit from a new pet, but not until you are ready. The right one will find you.  When I got my new dog, my cats stalked him for two days and now they lay with him on the couch and groom him.  I think they are closer to him than they were to Chloe, Chloe was the alpha when they came in.  This time, they were there first.  It's a different dynamic, but they are ok.  I think varying the routine will definitely help them adjust. 

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jennicole
dalmatian, i don't appreciate being told to "let go" when you have a pet for almost 14 years they become family. to "let go" would be like saying "i had you for 13 1/2 years but now you're gone and i'm over it" my friend posted this on my facebook and it is very true "Many people do not understand the happiness that an animal brings to our lives. But they are much more to us than our pets, they are our family and we mourn them just the same as family."
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