Dear Lee – and friends,
I wanted to add my name to the list of people whose grief you’ve helped with your wonderful posts over the years.
I lost three beloved animal companions in quick succession – all seniors, all requiring care similar to that you provided for Hannah in her illness, and all loved beyond all measure. Reading your story – your own terrible grief, your tentative feelings about adopting again and the recapitulation of guilt and grief that it brought on, the wish to save and be saved, the wish both to stay in grief and the wish to escape the pain, and your growing love, acceptance, and joy in your new family member – mirrored my own feelings and literally saved my skin in my own time of despair. It’s been extremely helpful to know that you, and all the others who have joined you in the conversation, were going through similar experiences to mine.
I know there are so many people who have contributed to your thread who, like me, are very grateful for the way you have shared your story as it unfolds. I’m sure there are many more who, like me, have not joined in the conversation, but who benefit from reading the ongoing expressions of shared sorrow and friendship, and who use the thread to help them think through emotionally confusing issues like re-adopting.
At the height of my grief, I read intensely; now I visit the forum a few times a year, and am always delighted to see your thread is still going, because I enjoy reading it myself, but also because I know for certain that your conversation is continuing to help people who are struggling with their grief for their pets.
I think that’s absolutely appropriate for a grief support forum, and I can’t thank you enough. Your thread is a gift.