After being up all night with my sick boy Sunday into Monday, Georgie went to Rainbow Bridge yesterday morning. In addition to all of the emotions I was feeling, I was physically exhausted. This is on the heels of making the decision to assist our sweet kitty BK to the Bridge last week. More than anything, I just want the pain to be at least manageable, and that's not going to happen without me helping myself. I know it's going to take time. I know I need to grieve. I believe that what I do with that time is most important.
I don't feel good today, but I'm not sobbing at the moment, and that's better than yesterday. I know everyone grieves in their own way, in their own time, but here are some things I did:
- Not taking care of myself isn't going to help me get through my grief, but I didn't feel like eating, so I made sure to drink liquids with a lot of electrolytes to avoid deydration.
- I reached out for the support of friends who'd lost pets. I shared memories of Georgie and asked how they coped.
- I searched the Internet for ways to honor Georgie and sought information and suggestions about grief and grieving. There are tons of great resources that don't minimize it and some which even talk about how much greater it can be than the loss of people we know.
- I started planning a memories journal. I'm going spend the time I'd normally spend with Georgie writing about him in that journal.
- I gathered all my photos and videos of him from various albums on my phone and moved them into one folder. I have 821 just on my phone! 😉 They made me cry, and I didn't hold back, but they made me smile too. Next I'll go through all those I have on my computer.
- I found a 'safe' place to express my emotions -- here -- and then I participated in the Candle Ceremony last night and lit candles for my little guy.
- I took something to help me sleep so, if nothing else, I'd be well rested today. Exhaustion amplifies all of the negative emotions for me.
- I started taking natural supplements to help reduce depression and reduce cortisol (produced by the body when we're stressed).
I looked for a thread here that was dedicated to grief and coping strategies people had tried and I don't see one. (If I missed it, might someone share the link?)
If you have suggestions, please share.
Wishing everyone peace in their time of grieving. <3