I am so sorry Wendy that you have had such a hard day, and that you had a falling out with a friend. I remember a few months ago, opening my heart to a friend and expressing my deep sadness over losing my Jasper, and she actually said, well maybe it is time you moved on, you are way too consumed with this, and you are stuck in your grief.
Well needless to say, I decided to put some time and space between us, because the last thing any one of us needs is someone discounting our feelings, someone putting a time limit on our grief, or someone having a complete lack of understanding about the depth of our feelings for our pets.
Hang in there, and just know that time is the great healer, at least that is what I keep telling myself, but like you, I can be just fine one moment, then something will take me right back again to that cold and dark night, when I lost a huge piece of my heart, and I know that nothing can ever be quite the same again, but I suppose we wouldn't want it to be, they are so worth every tear. Take care and know that your precious Solly and Gonzo would never want to see you so sad and hurting, keep hope in your heart, they are so worth waiting for, and they will wait for you, just as my Jasper is waiting for me.