Dear Laraine: I’m so sorry for the loss of your Max. I’ve also felt that depression of not wanting to get up or do anything, and the agony of realizing that they’re not coming back... after the early phase of shock and disbelief, when your brain thinks “This is not real, this is just a terrible dream. I’m going to wake up and he’ll be here next to me, and everything will be OK again.” It’s so painful to be forced to accept the finality, the feeling of helplessness knowing you can’t do *anything* to change the situation.
I also know what you mean about our babies helping us through trauma. I never realized until after I lost my Buddy, suddenly and unexpectedly in early March, just how much he helped me heal from the sudden, unexpected death of my dad a year and a half ago. Their calm, their constancy, their unconditional love provide such strong emotional support. Sending you hugs...
Cindy (Buddy’s mama)
My baby Buddy 5/4/10-3/7/20, rescued March 2011 My sweet Mandy 11/27/91-11/2/10, rescued November 1992 My beautiful Barney 4/28/73-9/7/92, adopted May 1973