How handsome Thatcher was and I am so glad you decided to connect with others on this forum. We have all experienced the devastation you feel and completely understand your grief and overwhelming loss over Thatcher. Most of us could not find the extended support for our loss as most people in our lives think we just need to "Get over it." I can tell you that it takes time. You don't "get over" the loss anymore than you "get over" the joy they brought into your life. You will, in time, learn to live with the loss. But it is always there, just like the way they forever changed your life will always be with you. I am just about 1 year out after the devastating loss of my best friend and sweet companion, Daisy. It still hurts and I still cry over her loss, but I can now celebrate her life too. Each day you'll move through the grief. Experience it all. Even days of great pain are moving forward; those are days when you realize the entirety of your loss. They are necessary and be gentle and kind to yourself as you experience them. I hope you will also find moments of peace along the way and days where you remember the joy and happy memories. One day you realize that it is worth the pain of loss to experience such love. For me, I knew I needed another companion and 4 months after Daisy passed, I adopted an 8 week old puppy. MANY people though it was too soon and I did not have the full support of my family, most notably, my husband. But I stuck to my gut, worked through my loss, grief and even guilt over adopting again. Bonding with my puppy, Luna did not happen right away. I thought I had made a huge mistake, but she squirmed her way into my heart and I think letting myself love her is Daisy's legacy. Luna is now 10 months old and such a love. We are completely devoted to each other and, even though I know I will also have to someday let her go too, I love each and every precious day with her. I think that is also the lesson I learned from Daisy; celebrate each day. You will find love and understanding here on this forum as we are all here to help, listen and support.
Lori, Daisy's Mom and now Luna's Mom