Yesterday while Ramses and I were in the vet's waiting room, I picked up the current issue of Modern Cat and found this article: How to Grieve the Loss of a Cat.  (The content of which also applies to dog owners, bird owners, horse owners, etc.)

It's hard to express the connection one has to a beloved pet to someone who's never experienced that kind of bond. This article articulates the distinction perfectly:

"When a beloved animal dies it can be devastating, overwhelming, and unfathomable...The emotions we feel are the same as any loss—but magnified..."

"The human-animal bond is unique..."

"What’s unique about cats we’ve bonded with for years is that they’re an intimate part of our everyday life. Because they’re there every night and day, by the time they pass we’ve often accumulated more time with them than we have with individual friends. Even family members are unlikely to be with you that consistently."

"To put it in the simplest of terms, a pet is that friend that always offers unconditional love and never utters a word of criticism...They are always there for you in your moments of greatest happiness and overwhelming sadness."

"The connection people have to their cats is one not possible between humans...These pure souls become integrated into the fabric of our lives. Their presents to us include affection, companionship, better physical health, a strong emotional connection—[they] promote social and physical activity, make us laugh, and allow us to take responsibility for another living creature. Pets also soothe us, calm us, and help us live in the moment."

"The longer the time spent in any relationship, the deeper that relationship becomes, which translates to a deeper sense of grief..."

"Remember to be gentle with yourself; this is a fragile time for you. The grieving will lessen over time; it is a hard transition from being able to hug and kiss your cat to having him or her eternally in your heart..."

"Eventually, the waves are less frequent and not quite as intense. However, there are triggers that at any time can overwhelm someone again...give sorrow the space to transform and most of all, to trust your way. You might need to process your feelings with someone you trust, or you might need to go throw stones in a river by yourself. Keep reminding yourself that your grief is love. That means it’s valid and important. And to avoid getting stuck in chronic misery or numbness—the only way through your grief is to feel it."

You can read the entire article here.

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Dear Learthur,

Such a wonderful article and insightful article. Thank you so much for sharing it here on the forum with us. Very good information and poignant in so many ways.

Kind regards,
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Thank you for sharing this.
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