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DebbieD
My husband grew up much differently than I did - they didn't show their feelings much in his house. So I just cry away from him - and finding this forum has been so helpful to have others to talk with about this. I know he loved Misty though - I don't question that at all.

Getting up this morning I was thinking how if she wasn't lying right beside me, as soon as she heard me getting up she'd come in and stand right in front of me making it hard to get changed. We'd always have that little moment where I'd say good morning and pet her. Love you, my sweetness.
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otto12
Lisa- I'm so sorry for your loss. Men grieve in a different way, like others said here they are taught to hold things in to be the strong one and to "get over it" even if they are hurting just as much as we do.

But I think it would be even more difficult for us if our men was crying all the time and showing their hurt when we are around. I know that my husband is hurting just as much as I am and I feel so sad about that but I think that everyone has to grieve in their own way.

I think if I was crying and talking about our beloved Jalle all the time it would only make it more difficult for my husband. I'm so grateful that I found this site where there are people who understand exactly what I'm going through. I have never experienced a loss like this before it hurts so much and it feels like people around me don't understand they probably think that I´ve gotten over it already.
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Susie_Squillions
I've read a few recent posts that make me think this might help someone, so I'm bumping it to the first page.  May all of you find the peace you need, little by little, day by day.
My heart is battered and bruised, but I will not let it break. It holds such precious cargo, I must protect it now. (Susie Squillions)

"Memories of loved ones are like songs in our soul." Margaret Wakeley

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In one of the stars, I shall be living.
In one of them, I shall be laughing.
And so it will be as if all the stars were laughing when you look at the sky at night.
~ The Little Prince, Antoine de Saint-Exupery
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Woodypatty
Thank you. I find myself saying I lost a dear friend this week when people see tears in my eyes.                                                                           Patty
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Susie_Squillions
WoodyPatty:

I'm so glad this was helpful for you.  I think your response to people is excellent.  It's surprising how many people there are out there who understand, but all it takes is one to say "Get over it" or, "Just a ..." to put us into a tail spin.  "I lost a dear friend this week" is an excellent way to handle it.


My heart is battered and bruised, but I will not let it break. It holds such precious cargo, I must protect it now. (Susie Squillions)

"Memories of loved ones are like songs in our soul." Margaret Wakeley

T.J.'S RESIDENCY:
http://RainbowsBridge.com/residents/TJ006/Resident.htm

BUDDY GUY AYRES~LYNCH'S RESIDENCY:
http://www.rainbowsbridge.com/residents/Buddy128/resident.HTM

KING BING THE GOD CAT'S RESIDENCY:
http://rainbowsbridge.com/residents/BINGO009/Resident.htm

In one of the stars, I shall be living.
In one of them, I shall be laughing.
And so it will be as if all the stars were laughing when you look at the sky at night.
~ The Little Prince, Antoine de Saint-Exupery
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donnalee
Oh Patty,
That is a great response!  It is also very true.  It's great because then you don't have to deal with the people who don't understand or want to minimize what you are going through.  Just perfect!
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