When our friends stop eating and drinking it's usually a pretty sure sign it's time for them to go home. You did the right thing. I'm sorry you had to deal with cold hearted uncompassionate people. Sadly many many people "just don't get it". I used to really hate such people but it's not worth the time and effort - much better to simply ignore them. The important thing is that Baby is in Heaven now. You love her and will see her again - that's all that really matters.