I got my new dog only yesterday and so far so good. But I find myself wondering if it IS going to help me get over my grief for Andy, who was really the love of my life. She is a real dear and I did not bond to Andy right away, I liked him but it took some time for me to absolutely love him. I can't be bonded to this dog in one day yet. When I pet her I think, is this how it was petting Andy? well not really but a little bit. Last night she cuddled up to me, it was nice, but not the same.
I also tell myself it's a new phase of my life, the phase where I had Andy is over and this is the next phase. I need to realize this and life marches on. It stinks I know!
I did get her cause I hate to sleep without a dog but I'm not sure if I'll get the same feeling from her sleeping with me,,he was just so mushy and cuddly. I also cry too because it almost makes me think about him more!
so to answer your question I think it is normal that you are still major grieving for Bora. You lost Bora only about a week before I lost Andy- he died on July 23rd.
I was telling the rescue lady yesterday the story of how he got sick and died and I just burst into tears, I didnt want to cry in front of her, I didnt mean for it to happen.
But I think it is totally normal that we are both still grieving for such a life's love less than 3 months later. I think the new furbaby IS a comfort. I think they will help us but they won't push our grief away. They won't cover up our grief. I got this dog because i have been such a total mess I thought perhaps this will help because I was sitting here wallowing. I felt I needed to do something to try to help me feel better, so I am hoping this little dog does help me to feel better.
sorry you are still feeling so sad but I totally get it, cause me too.