I'm sorta in the same position. I got my CeCe when she was about 5 wks old. She will be 9 the 26th of this month...but I don't think she will make it till then. Her's started out as a little yellow spot in the corner of her eye...it looked as though it was an infection. So I put some antibiotic cream on her eyelids and on her nose close to the yellow sac (looked like it was filled with pus). In a week or so it cleared up. Then one day, there was a big scab on her eye...we took her to the vet and he said he thought it was a cancerous tumor...but that it might possibly be an infection. (CeCe was an outdoor kittly...she would come in long enough to eat and want back outside...unless it was winter..so there was a possibility that she had got into a fight with another cat or some other animal and had injured her eye.) So the vet gave us oral antibiotics and antibacterial eye drops. In a week her eye seemed a little better so the vet said to finish up the oral meds and continue with the eye drops. He said originally that if it was a tumor there was nothing could be done. I didn't even realize that there were treatments for kitty cancer until I came to this site today. So we moved her into a spare bedroom where we could keep the door closed. (We have a doggie that she doesn't like very much...he wants to play with her and she wants to scratch his eyeballs out.) A month or so later...the tumor had grown and even I could tell it was a tumor...very raw...bleeding. We took her back to the vet and asked when? How will we know it's time. He said she wasn't in pain because she was still eating and drinking and that if she were in pain that she wouldn't eat or drink. (She had actually gained a half pound in that month.) Even if chemo or surgery of some sort were an option...I couldn't afford it. She's not eating and drinking as much...and the tumor is now down to her cheekbone and you can barely see her eye. Yesterday...she got out a window that my S/O had opened to try to air out the room. I found her...at first she ran from me...the finally hunkered down by the tire of my car and let me pick her up. She has always loved being outdoors...and I got to thinking...it's really being kinda cruel to her to not let her outside...but if she were outside...I may not be able to get her to give her the drops (they are now just to prevent an infection from setting in. She may go hide...and may suffer before nature took it's course...so I'm thinking it is time. It's breaking my heart...but I want what is best for her...we can't tomorrow...have a people appt. at the only time the vet is open...but I think Wednesday morning CeCe will be going to the Rainbow Bridge.
I'm a Christian...and what has helped me the most today is seeing the Scripture about how there are animals in heaven and knowing I will see her again someday and she will be like before.
I can't tell you what to do for MaeMae...but please know you and she will be in my prayers.
Linda (aka CeCe's Mom)