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How wonderful you took such painstaking time to honor Harley the way you did, and I love all the names you had for him.  I like Big Head, because he has such a beautiful big head.  And what a face on him.  Just wants to make you grab a hold of him and hug him so tight!  I think it is adorable that he loved balls and would bring in the toys that Elvis left outside.  So smart.  I really wish I could have met him, but I sort of feel like I have through your posts.  It makes me smile.

Their energy and love is still with us.  My Sammy came to me after my father died, when I had gone through a divorce and was in a horrible relationship.  He stuck by me through 3 bad relationships and moved with me 7 times, if I remember correctly.  Just as your Harley was there for you with your cancer to help you through all of it, (which I pray you are better now and cancer free).  

Sammy got the c word as well, plus very bad arthritis.  I think what actually made him so sick was the c word.  

The video was amazing, and you are right.  We are definitely on the same spectrum.  The one where we call them our babies and soulmates and loves of our lives.  Thank you so much for sharing that with me.  You truly understand me.

I hope that you and your husband find a lovely pal for Elvis.  I know that Harley will be helping you with it, like Sammy did with us.  He will help you find a buddy that will bond with Elvis, never replacing Harley, but someone he can relate to and do things with.  Please let me know how it goes!  

I know Thursdays are difficult for you, so if you need to share, I am always here for you.  I really and truly cherish our connection and friendship.  ( I hope that does not come off as too strong), but I am a very emotional person and I feel things very strongly, and I am grateful to have connected with you and Harley.

Your friend always,

Denise Sam (Sammy)'s mommy





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Hi Denise,

I hope you're day is going well I wanted to respond to the letter from earlier today but this one from yesterday has been spinning around in what's left of my brain, and first and  foremost I want to thank you for acknowledging that I've "Honored" Harley, I've tried to do just that because he deserves it and that there were just so many other words you could have used just makes it so very clear to me both how special you are and how lucky i am to have found someone who "get's it" really, that alone is a gift and I treasure it.
This is going sound so cliche' but I'm so sorry to learn you've been treated so badly - but I'll tell you this I think it's true that humor comes from pain and I also think so does true empathy. More often than not when people are hurt, they're inclined to hurt right back but there are those who despite their own suffering gain a deeper insight into the pain of others and I think it's from this insight they have a natural ability to comfort and heal. There's even a term "Highly sensitive people" they see what most others often overlook and feel both joy and sorrow at an incredibly deep and profound levels, I see you as this kind of person and I think it's both a blessing and a curse because so much suffering is experienced in complete isolation because people sometimes even the ones closest to us don't recognize the depth of hurt.
Like Sammy, Harley was always there for me through all the bad as well as the good. Because Sean and I refused to board him we haven't taken a trip in fifteen years, unless of course we could bring the boys which usually meant a weekend in Maine (we live in CT) but even those were few and far between. I'm not complaining the happiest place in the world for me was always home with Harley, neither Sean or I think we've missed out on a single thing - except for more time with him.  I didn't realize how much of my day was spent caring for him, I never minded it one bit in fact it was a privilege. I think when we love this deeply especially for an ailing or very old loved one human or animal, it makes no difference, there's this quiet beauty in it, this grace and for me that just gave me such a sense of purpose, it's hard living without that and the thought of getting back to work doesn't inspire or move me one way or the other, do you mind if I ask what you do? If you would rather not say I understand and only hope you like it and that especially during this time of your life it can at least provide some distraction - something I'm missing and when my head is finally clear perhaps it's yet one more thing for me to sort out.
Sean is totally open to getting a new dog, he resisted for years but we had started to look right about the time I got the Colon Cancer diagnosis - I never knew anything about cancer not really, what I knew came from movies and stories of other people, I never dreamed I would hear those words "you have cancer" but I did and it tears you down on every conceivable level, it's horrifying and terrible. My end result was very positive and I know how lucky I am. I had an amazing surgeon, Dr. Akram Reddy he's at Yale and patients come to him from all over the world he also teaches there. In fact we just there this past Tuesday, I don't need Chemo, thank God and will just have to be monitored by having my CEA levels checked and a CT scan every 90 days for the next five years - and a yearly colonoscopy Colon Cancer is the second biggest killer next to lung cancer, I haven't become a born again Cancer advocate but I would say that everyone over 40 (it's no longer 50) MUST have a colonoscopy, people are so afraid of it but it's totally painless, whatever the drug is they use to knock you out is amazing - you go out like a light and the next thing you know it's over.
I'll climb off my soapbox now...
I'm sorry Sammy had Cancer, Harley had developed a lot of those Sebaceous cysts, one under his front leg got to be the size of a baseball they weren't cancerous and the vet felt and we agreed that anesthesia at his age posed a huge risk for something he was oblivious to, last year he saw a cardiac specialist because his breathing had become really labored at times and an echo cardiogram showed a slow growing cyst on his heart and the rest is history in that he had a great year but when he started to decline it happened very fast. I had promised him he would never suffer - ever, and I don't believe or rather I pray he never did. His quality of life had changed and not for the better, he was letting me know it was time and I kept my promise to him and you kept your promise to Sammy. I love when you tell me that they're playing together in your sweet and eloquent way with words, that is so uniquely you. I sure hope they are, it's a wonderful, lovely little thought to hold. Kiss and hug Little Chino and "Scrappy" ( I love that name!!) for me and be good to yourself ~ Peter       




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Their energy and love is still with us.  My Sammy came to me after my father died, when I had gone through a divorce and was in a horrible relationship.  He stuck by me through 3 bad relationships and moved with me 7 times, if I remember correctly.  Just as your Harley was there for you with your cancer to help you through all of it, (which I pray you are better now and cancer free).  

Sammy got the c word as well, plus very bad arthritis.  I think what actually made him so sick was the c word.  

The video was amazing, and you are right.  We are definitely on the same spectrum.  The one where we call them our babies and soulmates and loves of our lives.  Thank you so much for sharing that with me.  You truly understand me.

I hope that you and your husband find a lovely pal for Elvis.  I know that Harley will be helping you with it, like Sammy did with us.  He will help you find a buddy that will bond with Elvis, never replacing Harley, but someone he can relate to and do things with.  Please let me know how it goes!  

I know Thursdays are difficult for you, so if you need to share, I am always here for you.  I really and truly cherish our connection and friendship.  ( I hope that does not come off as too strong), but I am a very emotional person and I feel things very strongly, and I am grateful to have connected with you and Harley.

Your friend always,

Denise Sam (Sammy)'s mommy

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Hi Peter,

I am so glad your responded!  I hope you are having an okay day, as well as can be expected anyway.  You can ask me anything.  I am a claims adjuster, sorry to say.  I don't go out in the field, but rather I work from my desk.  It is not a fulfilling job, but the pay is decent and it's really the only thing I know how to do and that I am any good at.  I always wanted to work with animals, but since I was not a school  person, and was not good at math, being a veterinarian or vet tech was out of the question.  I am too old at this point to switch careers or go to school for anything else (turned 51 on the 6th of this month)...Yuk...  We have to do continuing education to keep our licenses, but that is a breeze for me at this point as I have been doing this so long.  I never really wanted to advance into management.  It's not my thing.  I just like to be able to do my job and go home and not have anymore responsibilities other than taking care of my home and family, which includes all of the fur babies of course.  If I had some additional time in my life that would not take away from me spending time with my mom and driving her around and spending time with the fur babies, I would love to volunteer at a shelter.  Maybe if my health stays good I will be able to when I retire, if I ever do get to retire...lol  Everything is so expensive. 

I am so glad to hear that your cancer is in remission and will pray all the time, that it stays that way.  Thank you for your kind words about me being treated badly.  I unfortunately, put myself in those situations, thinking if I cared for these people they would be good, but that is not how life works.  Sometimes I do get taken advantage of, but I think a lot of people do.  It's okay, though.  It has brought me to where I am today. 

 I understand about you not wanting to go anywhere and have to board Harley or Elvis.  The only place where we ever went to or go is to Brooksville, which is about an hour and a half away.  We live in Pinellas Park Florida, which is the Tampa Bay area of Florida.  We live near the beaches, but I don't go there anymore.  Brooksville is more like country and we could take our dogs there all the time.  Sam loved going there and he knew as soon as we packed up the car, that we were going to Brooksville.  He would get so excited and jump around and howl.  That is actually where we got Chino.  Some friends of ours live up there.  They have horses, and chickens, roosters, pigs, cows, many dogs, cats a goat, just about anything you can think of.  We hadn't been up there for about two years as we bought the house, and moved and then moved my mom in, and then Sammy's health started declining.  The last time we were there was 3 weeks after Sammy passed.  It was so very hard, but Donny wanted to go to help cut some trees down for them.  both Donny and I cried before we left.  I cried the entire way up, had a few too many drinks while we were there, and cried most of the time while we were there.  It just wasn't the same without Sammy being there.  

I am sorry Harley got cancer to.  It's just the worst.  We did what we needed to do for them and what they wanted from us, to release them from their pain so they could be happy to run and play once again.  There are so many dogs and cats that are getting cancer it is just crazy, sad and horrible.  Well I am so glad to hear that Sean is on board with getting a pal for Elvis.  I think it will help you a little bit as well.  He will never replace precious big Harley, but he will keep Elvis company. 

Again thank you for understanding me.  I feel you are truly a very special person and am also so grateful to have connected with you, as you completely get me and understand me.   

Oh p.s, the letter I wrote earlier you can ignore.  I was looking on the post and didn't see the one I had sent yesterday, so I typed a new one and then realized I had to go to page 3 to see the one from yesterday so I deleted the one from today,or so I thought...lol It was basically saying the same thing as the one that your read from yesterday. 

I hope your evening goes as smoothly as possible and I will be thinking of you and Harley, and Elvis too.  Take care my friend.  Your posts always put a smile on my face and I so look forward to reading them.  Chat with you soon😉

Always your friend

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Hi Denise,

Hope all is well and that you had a good nights sleep, I woke up very early around 4 AM which for me is a good thing I used to love early morning, knowing Sean and the boys were sound asleep, getting the coffee going - my best time to write or just putter around.
I wanted to say how sorry I am about the loss of your Dad, I realized you had told me this yesterday and I didn't say a word but I meant too. The thing about great loss is there's nothing you can really say, except that you're sorry. For me, the people who helped me the most were those who just listened so that said, if you ever need to vent or cry or implode, if you ever feel alone or lost I'm here for you.
A quick Harley story, He loved bedtime and I would say Bed? like a question, if he walked away from me really fast I knew he wanted to stay up but if he wanted to hit the sheets he would walk to the bedroom and he would keep looking behind, over his shoulder to make sure I was following him. He would make a pit stop at the foot of the bed for his "big drink" of water and then mozy on to my side of the bed and stand there waiting. This was my Que to grab him under his front legs and lift him up and kind of swing him onto the bed, he always pushed off a little with his feet which I always loved to feel. Sean would often be sitting or laying on the bed, or sitting in this chair and would burst out laughing at Harley's face but I could never see it until Sean lifted Harley up for me, the way I picked him up and Denise - total doggie smile! The upper lips all curled in to one side and his crazy lop sided lower teeth all sticking out from that same side - what I wouldn't give for a photograph of that expression.
It took Harley a long time to make his bed, years ago Sean's side became his side but more often than not despite his arthritis he would wiggle his way across the bed to be very close to me, all through my recovery which was eight weeks or so his head was always on my chest or my leg and that's just how he was. He also loved to dig the covers back, he would stand up and walk up to the head of the bed and start to use his front paws to pull all the covers back, which is why all the sheets are shredded. I would get next to him on my hands and knees and do the exact same thing which he just adored and it made him dig away faster and harder and this odd little ritual became something that occurred most every night only stopping to do this when he was too sore or just too plain tuckered out.Tomorrow is my mothers 90th Birthday party which I'm not looking forward to one bit, although I love her very much the rest of my family is a different story. I hope you're taking extra good care of yourself and that you're doing ok.
Your Friend,
Peter 

   




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I watched the video.  Wow..., you were so right.  We are both on the spectrum of "my baby", my soulmate, my everything".  I did cry because it is so true.  Thank you so much for sharing that with me.  Please let me know how it goes with you and Sean about getting another dog, when you are ready.  I want to thank you for understanding me and being so kind.  Your posts about Harley make me smile.  I love what you wrote about Harley bringing in Elvis's toys from outside.  That is adorable and very smart. You can see how big his heart is in his pictures, just like my Sammy.  They both have big hearts.  I hope you are doing okay today, I know it is not your favorite day.  I am here for you.  Even though we have never met I feel like I know you from this wonderful website and I am so grateful that we connected.  I think your Harley and my Sammy had something to do with it.  I am a very sensitive person, and when I feel, or care about something, I feel very deeply.  I feel like you are a very good friend and I will always be a good friend to you.  Take care of yourself today and keep me posted on the new addition to the family, if you have decided to move forward with that.

Always your friend
Denise Sam (Sammy)'s mommy

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Oh Peter,  Thank you so much for writing about Harley!  It made me cry such happy tears just thinking about it.  Your Harley sure was a character, and a very handsome one at that.  He loves you so much.  He was there for you during your recovery and I am sure that his love helped you beat your illness.  I can see why you love him and miss him so much.  What a beautiful baby!  

Sammy always slept with his daddy and Chino. The kitties slept with me.  Sam used to love bed time with daddy.  He would roll around and make funny noises and sneeze up a storm and roll over for me to scratch his belly when I said good night to him.  He would also smile during that time, just like your Harley.  As he got older we had some steps for him to get up on the bed, then when he couldn't do that anymore, Donny took the bed frame down and just slept on the mattress so he could get in bed with him.  I didn't much care for that but he did it for Sammy.  Then he got a smaller mattress so during the last six months he would lay by the door always keeping a careful watch.  He was a great protector.  I knew towards the end that he was trying to tell me something when he started coming into my room and would just lay there for a while.  He is so very smart. If I spelled out the word in a very soft voice "Ride" or "Walk", he knew exactly what I was saying.  Also when I would spell out "bath time" he would run the other way.  He did not like bath time.  We had to give him a bath outside because there was no way he would get into a tub and stay there, and he was a very big boy, so it was just easier to give him a bath outside, and being we live in Florida, it rarely gets cold for very long.  He didn't like the bath part but loved to drink the water out of the hose.  Crazy Sammy...lol

It's okay about my dad.  I was always daddy's girl but for some reason when he passed I pretty much held it together.  Maybe it is because I had to be there for my mom, or maybe it was because I was in a very bad place at the time.  I don't remember crying but maybe a couple times.  He passed two weeks before his 83 birthday, in fact right before Memorial Day weekend.  His favorite holidays were Memorial Day and Christmas.  That is why I named my Sammy Sam, after my dad as he showed up in my driveway a little more than a month after my dad passed.  He was an amazing man. Very kind and loved having lots of people around.  I hope that he has met Sammy, he would have loved that dog here on earth.  I will tell you about me living all over the world one day.  We traveled a lot when I was younger.  

Wow...your mom is 90 tomorrow?  That sure is a long life.  I wish her a very Happy Birthday.  She must be truly amazing.  I hope that you enjoy her Birthday Party, even if you don't much get along with the other family members.  Will Sean be there with you?  I am sure your mom will be very happy that you are there for her.  I hope you have a good weekend.  I will be thinking about you and Harley and your lovely stories about him, as well as my Sammy.  I hope you Sean and Elvis enjoy your weekend.  

Write back whenever you like.  I love your posts, they really make my day.  Thank you for being a wonderful person and a friend

Your friend Always,

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I love hearing all about Sammy and I know that nothing makes you feel as safe as the protection of a big dog. Your Dad sounds like a brilliant, kind and amazing man and I have little doubt that he knows all about Sammy and he sent Sammy to you or somehow made sure that through Sam your Pop could ensure so many things that were important to him - knowing that his daughter was loved, that she was protected and that her life had great joy and meaning. And now they both watch over you, as Harley watches over me and as you and I take this journey through our grief and as difficult as this road is, who would have guessed a great friendship would be forged, and I have to believe that's not just a random thing but rather something meant to be - this will sound totally cliche' but I'm not a religious person, I'm spiritual and I have faith but it isn't defined by any ones book or church. I just know there's something greater, some kind of infinite wisdom that's beyond our grasp being the mere mortals we are - but it's there, I can feel it.
I laughed about the steps to the bed for Sam because we tried those with Harley and he took to them right away, but one time they just flew out from under him and he would never use them again. Like Sam he loved the car so much too, and yes, even spelling the word and so many words sent him into a tail spin. I used to love to cook and always made their food, the recipe I use includes frozen green beans (you have to use french cut ones) whenever I pulled the bag out of the freezer I would scream GREEN BEANS! and he would jump up in the air and spin around, which we always called "jump n' spin" and it cracked us up every single time. When he got very old he would still do this, but it was more of a slow walk in a circle with that big wonderful smile on his face.  Sometimes he would get so excited he would run really fast down the hall, turn around and race back - God, he loved to eat his dinner.
Elvis is very demure and dainty when it comes to eating he takes his time, and savors every bite, often leaving some for later. Harley was the polar opposite - whadda slob! food flying everywhere while he grunted like some over sized half starved pig, his food getting on the walls and all over the floor - and we wouldn't have had it any other way, I loved to watch him eat! When he took food from your hand, like his beloved peanut butter cookies he was always very gentle and sweet. He had a wonderful muzzle which we called his "Liver" because it was so floppy, flabby and fuzzy, a favorite place to kiss him, Sean always described his muzzle and especially his ears as feeling "pelty" and I suppose they did.
Like Sammy he hated bath time,  but he put up with it. In the hot weather we bathed him outside but I could lift him into the tub too and he would just put up with it and look miserable, there's a pic at his memorial of Sean giving him a bath and that's Harley's classic bath expression. But afterwards he would shake and then run around like crazy, at speeds rarely seen, so we knew that he felt really good. It says a lot about Donny that you would put the mattress on the floor to make it easier for Sam.
We were going to do the exact same thing until I realized that after my surgery I would need the bed to be high like in waist high, ugh...for a month getting in and out of bed was a nightmare and it took forever. I had 8 incisions and Sean was so afraid that Harley would step on me, but I never was, I just knew he wouldn't. So Sean would lift him up and we all shared the bed for those first few weeks, like one big pack.
I love hearing about Sammy, these little things like how he chose to sleep in the doorway so he could keep an eye on things are such precious observations about your beautiful boy and although I really don't know if I'll ever feel the same or be the same, we were so lucky to have these creatures drift into our lives and give us so so so so so much, and that we remember every second of it is so incredibly special - I can hear you saying that in remembering them, we honor them.
Elvis always sleeps with Sean, he'll hang out with me but sleep times reserved for his Daddy and like you, I'm just fine with that ~ Peter


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Sammy always slept with his daddy and Chino. The kitties slept with me.  Sam used to love bed time with daddy.  He would roll around and make funny noises and sneeze up a storm and roll over for me to scratch his belly when I said good night to him.  He would also smile during that time, just like your Harley.  As he got older we had some steps for him to get up on the bed, then when he couldn't do that anymore, Donny took the bed frame down and just slept on the mattress so he could get in bed with him.  I didn't much care for that but he did it for Sammy.  Then he got a smaller mattress so during the last six months he would lay by the door always keeping a careful watch.  He was a great protector.  I knew towards the end that he was trying to tell me something when he started coming into my room and would just lay there for a while.  He is so very smart. If I spelled out the word in a very soft voice "Ride" or "Walk", he knew exactly what I was saying.  Also when I would spell out "bath time" he would run the other way.  He did not like bath time.  We had to give him a bath outside because there was no way he would get into a tub and stay there, and he was a very big boy, so it was just easier to give him a bath outside, and being we live in Florida, it rarely gets cold for very long.  He didn't like the bath part but loved to drink the water out of the hose.  Crazy Sammy...lol

It's okay about my dad.  I was always daddy's girl but for some reason when he passed I pretty much held it together.  Maybe it is because I had to be there for my mom, or maybe it was because I was in a very bad place at the time.  I don't remember crying but maybe a couple times.  He passed two weeks before his 83 birthday, in fact right before Memorial Day weekend.  His favorite holidays were Memorial Day and Christmas.  That is why I named my Sammy Sam, after my dad as he showed up in my driveway a little more than a month after my dad passed.  He was an amazing man. Very kind and loved having lots of people around.  I hope that he has met Sammy, he would have loved that dog here on earth.  I will tell you about me living all over the world one day.  We traveled a lot when I was younger.  

Wow...your mom is 90 tomorrow?  That sure is a long life.  I wish her a very Happy Birthday.  She must be truly amazing.  I hope that you enjoy her Birthday Party, even if you don't much get along with the other family members.  Will Sean be there with you?  I am sure your mom will be very happy that you are there for her.  I hope you have a good weekend.  I will be thinking about you and Harley and your lovely stories about him, as well as my Sammy.  I hope you Sean and Elvis enjoy your weekend.  

Write back whenever you like.  I love your posts, they really make my day.  Thank you for being a wonderful person and a friend

Your friend Always,

Denise Sam (Sammy)'s mommy
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I am so sorry that you had to go through the pain of surgery from cancer, but I am so thankful that you made it through and are here today.    I can tell in some of the things you write that you are not religious but I can definitely feel that you are spiritual.  I myself do not really believe in the Bible or Church.  For one, man wrote the Bible, and it has changed so much through time.  I say my prayers on my own time and usually I always pray for others.  I found that anytime I pray for myself something bad happens, so I do not do it anymore. I usually just say thank you for all that I have been given. I have lately prayed that I get through this gosh awful pain of losing Sammy and I pray every night that I will be with him again.  I pray for you lately and that you get through your pain of losing Harley and for you to be reunited with him. I have thanked Sammy and Harley for allowing a friendship to flourish.  I do believe there has to be a place where our souls and energy will be able to be with them.  I honestly can't wait.  I have to tell you, early on in my grief I didn't want to live.  I wanted to die and be with Sammy.  Then I thought about my mom, Chino, Donny, the new one Scrappy and all the kitties.  What would happen to them if I was so selfish to do something bad.  I'm glad I snapped out of it.  I doubt I would have ever gone through with it, but I was so devastated that I just didn't want to live.  I'm sure many people grieving over their fur-babies must feel like that at first.  Or maybe I am just a weirdo...lol.  I know I still have a job to do here on earth, I am not sure what it is (maybe taking care of my mom and the fur babies still here), but I hope that when I have accomplished it, the higher power beyond will bring all of our loved ones together again.  

I love how you wrote that Harley made a mess with his food.  Sammy did the same thing until his teeth got bad.  He drank a lot of water and would drool all over the kitchen floor.  I love how you made them fresh food.  What exactly did you feed them?  I want to start something healthy for Chino and Scrappy.  I think all the cancer that all of these animals are getting may have to do with the food.  Even the expensive brand foods, I do not think are very good for them.  I went to the grocery store last night after work.  We have a grocery store chain here called Publix and it carries the expensive brands of dog and cat food.  I had to get cat food and walking down the aisle just about killed me.  I saw the food I would buy for Sam and it just broke my heart thinking I should be buying food for him but won't ever get to again.  It just doesn't seem right. 

When I first took Sam in, he was a handfull.  He had separation anxiety, and before I knew what was wrong with him, he had broken out the windows to play with the children in the neighborhood.  I would come home and the kids would let me know that Sam escaped again and was playing with them, but he always came home.  He chewed the door jamb in the kitchen that led to the back yard.  I was horrified because I was renting this little house at the time.  I crated him for a while during the day after that, and once I got him fixed he calmed down a lot.  He was just something else.  I think you mention in Harley's memorial, that the children would come and knock to see if Harley could come out and play ball with them.  He is just so very sweet.   How can you not love their amazing pure and beautiful souls.  

I hope you and Sean and Elvis have a nice St. Patrick's Day.  I am not Irish, but I love making the corned beef and cabbage and potatoes.  Yummy.  Other than that we will be home as usual.  That is the way I like it anyway.  I love being home with my family.  I miss Sam being there and always will but he is there with us in some form, just as Harley is with you and your family in your home.  I just know it!

Thank you again for sharing about Harley.  Your memories of him that you write really do make me smile and smiling right now is what I need.  Keep them coming whenever you want.

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Hi Denise,

Thought you might like to see this picture of Harley and me (80 lbs heavier) and they say humans look like their dogs, I would love to be as dapper as Harley was - even for a day. I  realized I needed some clothes for tomorrow so I ordered online, but in my head I'm still 300 lbs so I ordered everything in 2X ..ugh, I'll be the bald guy wearing the tablecloth because that's exactly what it looks like. Hey do you know how to sew? how fast can you get here?

I have no clue of this picture will post, I'll cross my fingers which makes it so hard to type!

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What a beautiful picture of the both of you.  Thank you so much for sharing it with me.  It's truly adorable.  He IS so very dapper and you are too!  Oh my gosh I wish I could reach through that picture and give him a really big hug and squeeze!!!  What a beautiful angel.

Thank you again Peter

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Hi Denise,

I hope you're having a great weekend, what's left of it anyway.
Last night was my Mom's birthday party I think she had a grand time, I've been struggling with stomach issues which the surgeon had told us is expected and will take between one to one and half years to resolve itself - it's nothing I can't live with but last night it was so intense I had to leave, so Sean and I said our goodbyes and headed home. I feel badly about it but I was feeling miserable and had no choice. Anyway - I wanted to tell you that as I'm waiting for Sean my cousins husband comes up to me and tells me he had heard that Harley died and was sorry, I said thank you - then he says "why don't you and Sean just get another dog?"
I've heard that people say this, I've read that people say this but it's never been said to me. I wish I could tell you that I replied with something like "how would you feel if God forbid one of your children had died and I told you to just go and adopt another" but I was speechless, dumbfounded at the blatant insensitivity and complete blindness to my grief - stupid people say stupid things. For some reason I felt compelled to have to tell you this, why I don't know because this guy means zero to me. I see it as just one more example of how people who are genuinely and deeply suffering over the loss of their fur baby have their feelings so completely unrecognized and dismissed by our society. I also want you to know that I understand those suicidal feelings, I've been there many times it's like you think you've hit the bottom of sorrow and then you discover an entire new level and now it's an effort just to breathe, the pain is crushing the life out of you - there are no words to describe the complete desperation. Sorry to be so grim and gloomy, I wanted to tell you about Harley's giant purple ball, so keep your eyes open for yet another long winded, this less than riveting, mindless banter of a tale (how on earth do you suffer through these anyway?) stories of mine. I don't know how you do it, I don't question it - I just love it though.
I wish Sean had been listening to me for the past few years about getting another dog. It's irrational and not fair to him but I'm still so angry. Now I'm thinking it's too late one reason is that for some reason we never had Elvis neutered (hangs head in shame) and I don't know why, he has the most gentle and passive nature and never has shown the slightest sign of aggression towards other male dogs. Harley was neutered, all our dogs have always been neutered or spayed, for health reasons alone we should have had it done (we're bad doggie daddies!) it just somehow fell through the cracks. My concern is that the more time he has being the only dog in the house the stronger his territorial instincts are becoming and he'll get to a point, if he's not there already that with a female he'll become obsessed with mating and with a male he'll feel threatened and be aggressive, when you get a chance I would love to know what you think.
I'm wishing you and Donnie and Chino and Little Scrappy ( I LOVE that name!) if we do end up with a puppy I'm going to have to steal it from you because that's how much I adore it.
Your Brain Damaged, and Emotionally Stunted Friend,

Peter 

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Thank you again Peter

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Hi Peter, U was so hoping I would hear from you this weekend. I am happy to hear your mom had a good time at her birthday party. I am sorry it had to be cut short, because of your stomach pain. I do hope that these pains resolve themselves.

I understand, about how cruel people can be when trying to say a word of condolence to us. I do not think they mean to hurt us, but some people don't think before they speak. They also don't understand the relationship and extremely close bond we have with fur babies. They just dont get it. It's sad really because they will never feel the most beautiful and pure love that we have been so fortunate and blessed to have had and to still be able to feel that love even though their earthly selves are no longer. I don't think it will ever change. People are just people, they are just dumb, stupid and ignorant.

About Elvis. I heard it is actually never to late to get fixed. How old is he? I would definitely check with your vet. I am pretty sure you can have it done at any time. Animals are amazing creatures. The will know and understand who is the alpha and who is the Beta. They learn this process very quickly. If you do decide to get another dog, you will want to bring Elvis along so they can meet. If you get a puppy, there should not be an issue with them getting along, and it will keep Elvis busy and occupied. I think it will be fine if you can get Elvis fixed ( I say fixed because I am not sure if the correct word is neutered or dosed, I get them confused.. lol).

Well it's good to know, that I was not the only one to have suicidal thought over losing my pet. As you know they are not just our pets of family member. They are our children and soulmates.
I would never think you ste crazy fir posting what you feel. I love your posts and I hope you know you can write me about anything you are feeling. I would never think you strange weird or as you put it, emotionally brain damaged ( I like your sense of humor). I feel like I can pretty much tell you anything and I hope you can feel the same about confiding in me.

Thank you for posting me. Again, it always makes my day and puts a smile on my face.

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I was typing this without my glasses on so I misspelled a bunch of words. I meant to say neutered or spade... lol
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I was really hoping to hear back from you  - you're emails are always a gift and I count on and respect your in sight so much, and once again you're spot on. This guy isn't a bad person and I know his intention came from a decent place but the sad fact is as pointed out by so many reliable people, including you and that is, that for most people an animal is just one more thing you replace and then poof! problem solved. I feel sorry for them too because they'll just never know and if you try and explain it just makes it worse all around so it's really a fact that either they get it or they don't.
Harley had a favorite ball it's this huge purple thing, yet despite the size he was amazingly agile with it and when he would see me heading down the steps from the deck to the backyard he would make a bee line straight too this thing and using his head, bring it to me by pushing it for me to throw for him, he adored it so much. I hadn't seen it since he died, yesterday I went out in back to play with Elvis, saw the ball under the deck and broke down, which seems to be my new pass time, thanks for your always kind and amazing words of wisdom - and you're right it's really never to late to have them neutered Elvis is 8 soon to be 9, it's worth discussing with our vet. If we got a puppy there would be no problem, as the puppy was neutered at 6 months or so but an older dog would have to be already fixed, same with a female...all of this could have been avoided if we had brought in a new dog prior to Harley's passing away - which BTW, I'm going to have to stop resenting Sean over this because it's not like I'm a wallflower I could have pushed harder. Sometimes you can understand something in your head but your heart tells you a completely different story. Here's my Boy with his beloved purple ball!
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I understand, about how cruel people can be when trying to say a word of condolence to us. I do not think they mean to hurt us, but some people don't think before they speak. They also don't understand the relationship and extremely close bond we have with fur babies. They just dont get it. It's sad really because they will never feel the most beautiful and pure love that we have been so fortunate and blessed to have had and to still be able to feel that love even though their earthly selves are no longer. I don't think it will ever change. People are just people, they are just dumb, stupid and ignorant.

About Elvis. I heard it is actually never to late to get fixed. How old is he? I would definitely check with your vet. I am pretty sure you can have it done at any time. Animals are amazing creatures. The will know and understand who is the alpha and who is the Beta. They learn this process very quickly. If you do decide to get another dog, you will want to bring Elvis along so they can meet. If you get a puppy, there should not be an issue with them getting along, and it will keep Elvis busy and occupied. I think it will be fine if you can get Elvis fixed ( I say fixed because I am not sure if the correct word is neutered or dosed, I get them confused.. lol).

Well it's good to know, that I was not the only one to have suicidal thought over losing my pet. As you know they are not just our pets of family member. They are our children and soulmates.
I would never think you ste crazy fir posting what you feel. I love your posts and I hope you know you can write me about anything you are feeling. I would never think you strange weird or as you put it, emotionally brain damaged ( I like your sense of humor). I feel like I can pretty much tell you anything and I hope you can feel the same about confiding in me.

Thank you for posting me. Again, it always makes my day and puts a smile on my face.

Always your friend

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I forgot, these were taken last Fall so he was almost 14 and here he is in action!
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I understand, about how cruel people can be when trying to say a word of condolence to us. I do not think they mean to hurt us, but some people don't think before they speak. They also don't understand the relationship and extremely close bond we have with fur babies. They just dont get it. It's sad really because they will never feel the most beautiful and pure love that we have been so fortunate and blessed to have had and to still be able to feel that love even though their earthly selves are no longer. I don't think it will ever change. People are just people, they are just dumb, stupid and ignorant.

About Elvis. I heard it is actually never to late to get fixed. How old is he? I would definitely check with your vet. I am pretty sure you can have it done at any time. Animals are amazing creatures. The will know and understand who is the alpha and who is the Beta. They learn this process very quickly. If you do decide to get another dog, you will want to bring Elvis along so they can meet. If you get a puppy, there should not be an issue with them getting along, and it will keep Elvis busy and occupied. I think it will be fine if you can get Elvis fixed ( I say fixed because I am not sure if the correct word is neutered or dosed, I get them confused.. lol).

Well it's good to know, that I was not the only one to have suicidal thought over losing my pet. As you know they are not just our pets of family member. They are our children and soulmates.
I would never think you ste crazy fir posting what you feel. I love your posts and I hope you know you can write me about anything you are feeling. I would never think you strange weird or as you put it, emotionally brain damaged ( I like your sense of humor). I feel like I can pretty much tell you anything and I hope you can feel the same about confiding in me.

Thank you for posting me. Again, it always makes my day and puts a smile on my face.

Always your friend

Denise Sam (Sammy)'a mommy |

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Ha! Without my glasses I'm like Mr. Magoo and I have readers EVERYWHERE literally. My prescription glasses are only for far vision, I tried progressives but hated them, so for anything up close I just use readers - I think we should start the Sammy & Harley House for ailing and senior dogs, if I had the money I wouldn't blink. Which reminds me, don't ever feel bad about working with claims, that's how our health system works, our insurance covered over 70 grand we have Aetna. In a perfect world there would be universal or socialized medicine in the US but the reality is different.
We've been covered by about 70-80% so as a cancer survivor who'll need follow up care every 90 days for the next five years, I'm grateful we have the coverage ~ Peter     

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